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AIBU to ask for a phone call?

23 replies

MrsAttending · 22/01/2016 09:40

My df is now unable to drive due to some health issues.

He has an appointment today and has asked me to collect him and drop him home again.

All I've asked is that he rings me when he's done so I know when to collect him - his appointment could last anything from 10minutes to an hour (he doesn't know till he gets in there as dentist isn't sure the problem yet).
He said he expected me to wait on the roadside (no parking nearby) and will not be ringing me. Confused
I don't want to wait on the roadside for up to an hour, I'm signed off work and would like to be at home in bed.

AIBU to him to call me when he's done?

OP posts:
MangoBiscuit · 22/01/2016 09:43

Of course YANBU. Tell him that as you are ill, you will be staying warm at home for as long as possible, and if he requires a lift, he can call you. If you don't hear from him, you'll assume he got a taxi.

sooperdooper · 22/01/2016 09:45

That's daft, I assume he has a mobile?

StitchesInTime · 22/01/2016 09:52

YANBU.

MuttonDressedAsMutton · 22/01/2016 10:02

YANBU - why does he think it's ok to speak to you like that? Drop him off and bugger off back home to bed if he can't be arsed to act like a rational human being.

GruntledOne · 22/01/2016 10:17

Tell him if he won't be ringing you, you won't be giving him a lift back. As the driver, you definitely have the upper hand here!

TiddlyFitShaced · 22/01/2016 10:22

Well if he doesn't ring you, he can ring a taxi instead.

SoreArms · 22/01/2016 10:23

Yanbu, but presuming it's quite far away (as he's not walking there in the first place), if you drop him and return home you could be called straight back and either way, within an hour. So going back to bed just to get up again would be just as much hassle for you? Could you drop him and go to a cafe or something nearby? Or could he get there by other means (ie taxi) but call when he's done for pick up?

WhereYouLeftIt · 22/01/2016 10:49

"He said he expected me to wait on the roadside (no parking nearby) and will not be ringing me."
You are doing him a favour and he is acting like a dick. Of course he can ring you. Go home once you've dropped him off, he can call a taxi. You are his daughter not his slave, and he's being very disrespectful and inconsiderate.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 22/01/2016 11:46

What WhereYouLeftIt said.

NoodleNuts · 22/01/2016 12:11

TBH I would probably wait for my DP, what's the point in going home if I had to leave to pick him up again the minute I got in?

VimFuego101 · 22/01/2016 12:16

YANBU. I would just wait the full hour before going back and let him be the one to wait for you.

Woodenmouse · 22/01/2016 12:23

YANBU but how far away is the appointment as it might be a waste of time to drive back if you are going to have to turn around straight away and go back, especially if it ends up only being a 10 minute thing. However this does not mean he can demand you sit on the side of the road and wait for him he shoukdnbe gratefulf or you halping him out while you are unwell.

notquitehuman · 22/01/2016 12:25

Go home, get into bed, and switch your phone to silent. He has no right being so rude when you're doing him a favour.

ExitPursuedByABear · 22/01/2016 12:28

Get away with you all.

The man has health issues and can no longer drive.

If he has a phone then it is reasonable to expect him to call you. But I suppose it depends on his age. My DF is incapable of using a mobile.

I would rather hang around than go home and be called out again immediately, but then that is just me.

TiddlyFitShaced · 22/01/2016 12:36

Get away with you all. The man has health issues and can no longer drive

So? So do a lot of people. Doesn't mean you get to order around the people who are kindly driving you to and from your appointments.
Very few people are incapable of using a mobile. My 95 year old Great Aunt can text people on hers, its just a matter of learning how. And large buttons!

jay55 · 22/01/2016 12:40

If he has painful work done he might not be able to talk on the phone.

gandalf456 · 22/01/2016 12:46

Text? My mum is 73 and can do that

GruntledOne · 22/01/2016 12:54

Get away with you all. The man has health issues and can no longer drive

OP has health issues and is doing a massive favour in providing a lift in spite of them. Her father's health issues don't entitle him to demand that his unwell daughter sit waiting for him for up to an hour when he could resolve the issue so easily by phoning. Clearly he is capable of using a phone, otherwise OP wouldn't have asked; but if there really was an issue he could ask the receptionist to phone.

ExitPursuedByABear · 22/01/2016 12:54

Good for her. My Dad is 88 and cannot use a mobile.

Nowhere in the OP was the word 'order' used either.

KinkyAfro · 22/01/2016 13:03

If he cant talk then surely the receptionists can make the call?

gandalf456 · 22/01/2016 13:10

It was just a suggestion if he could not talk. A lot of people assume older people can't get on with technology which is not always the case.

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 22/01/2016 13:18

Our dentist would call or text me!

They would be happiest doing this themselves, knowing they had an elderly patient.

They would want to know he was safe.

No request for a lift would mean no lift in this house!

Good for him still having his own teeth in his his 90s tho.

TiddlyFitShaced · 22/01/2016 13:24

OP's dad could be in his 50's for all we know!!

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