More a WWYD. friend and her partner.

[AchyMcAcherson]

Just after a bit of advice really. Or wondering what you'd do in this situation?
An ex workmate of mine is with a man who quite frankly is a scumbag. She said so herself during their many breakups.
I don't see her anymore but we keep in touch via FB, she lives her entire life on FB, as some people do.
Anyway, she's 30, when I met her she was married with 3 kids under six, she wasn't getting on well with her husband. I think he cheated on her & certainly didn't treat her particularly well, used to call her fat & useless, didn't do much if any childcare, was always vanishing etc.
So eventually her husband left & she met a new man on POF, she fell head over heels for him & he'd moved in within weeks.
But they kept rowing, she was sure he was cheating, probably with hIs ex who he has a toddler with, he kept packing up & leaving and then coming back. Each time he left she vowed she'd not have him back and each time she did. She used to moan to me about him almost constantly.
Then she got pregnant, he left several times during her pregnancy, she also left our workplace during her maternity leave & moved in with her mum 100 miles away.
She's now had the baby, it's about 7m old, the BF has left & come back several more times. Each time he leaves she plasters it all over FB what a lying scumbag he is, how he takes drugs, drinks, cheats etc.
Then he comes back & she deletes all the posts.
A few weeks ago she posted a pic of her with blood all over her face. She said he'd hit her & that she was posting the pic so that f she was ever weak enough to take him back that people would remind her of this moment.
Of course, he's now back & she's posting the usual stuff about how amazing he is and how brilliant their relationship is, all those terrible 'if a couple is meant to be, they'll overcome all obstacles' quotes superimposed over a grainy pic of a happy couple.
So, WWYD? So far I've kept my mouth shut. But every time I see the posts I'm reminded about that (now deleted) post where she said to remind her about it if she took him back.
But I feel like it won't be welcomed. I will probably just get a load of abuse
I feel sorry for her kids, there's 4 now as well as his child, she's admitted he's a terrible dad, gets angry if kids cry or make a mess & shouts & screams at them. He's already shown he'll hit a woman, I'm not sure he wouldn't hit a child.
So, would you say anything to her?

Why are you not letting social services know? If ever something happens the people moaning about social workers failing will conviniently forget the warning signs that friends and neighbours ignored.

At risk children support and intervention also includes the importance of their emotional wellbeing.

It's not that complicated. Give names of all those involved as well as last known address, approximate new location. Details of her former GP if known are a great way for he'd to be traced. If not that's what the professionals are for
Your role as a member of society is to highlight the concern and move on.

Do you know you have included an email address in your last post?

I've reported your post due to the email address you seem to havd accidentally inserted in it.

I reported it as soon as I noticed. But thanks.

p.m. her then then it won't be played out on F.B. when she moans you're not being supportive or don't understand how much they love each other
Be prepared to lose her as a friend because if she puts him before her kids she'll def. do it to you. Poor kids.
I have a sil like this, boyfriends moved in that require a panic button being fitted and her children put on 'at watch registers'. sad.

It is sad. She's so sweet but she thinks that 'bad boys' are glamorous and interesting. She can't seem to see that he's just an idiot who will eventually either leave her or hurt her.
Thanks for the advice. I've contacted the NSPCC for further advice.

This is my deleted post. Without my email address in it! :)
^Thank you for your responses everyone. The PP who said she inexplicably gets a weird excitement from it has absolutely hit the nail on the head. She's told me many times that she likes 'bad boys' & has mocked my 'boring' husband on occasion because he's not 'exciting' - works hard, looks after me and his child (not my child, his from a previous relationship) and is generally a good bloke. Not perfect in any way but generally nice. That's 'boring' apparently.
I'm friends with her because I like her, she's a nice person but she makes terrible choices.
I'm not close friends, like I said, we were colleagues and now we're just FB friends. I don't even know her new address so I'm not sure I could report to SS, although I'm sure if I asked her she'd give it to me - I'd say I want to send her a card or whatever.
I haven't screenshotted any posts. I so wish I had, especially the pic of her covered in blood. I think if I had that I'd have texted her & reminded her what's she'd said about 'being strong'
I don't know, I don't feel I'm close enough to her to interfere but I do feel for the children, at the very least her relationship is showing her older kids (girls) that it's ok to be slapped about and shouted at by a man because she always takes him back & it's showing the younger boys that it's ok to treat a woman like that.
I think I'll text her & just ask if everything is ok & see what happens from there.
Thank you again everyone.^