To be a bit hmm?

[MustangMillie]

After a few drinks consumed on first date last night date said he thought I looked beautiful. He followed this up on second date saying I looked pretty. While I'm completely flattered to hear this, I am actually neither of these things!

Would you lot take it as a compliment? It was nice to hear as I had made an effort both times but equally a bit as I know that it's not true! Just raised my suspicions a little

NB: the guy who was saying all this is lovely but very young (well, 21) and has not had a girlfriend before. A bit suspicious he feels he has to say things like that to get women to like him/to get a girlfriend! The adage "flattery will get you everywhere" comes to mind

Sweetdreams can I ask how you dealt with your BDD please?

Well, in the end, you just make the best of what you have, and after a while you judge yourself in the confines of that.

(I always feel rather scared of beautiful women.)

Also, beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. In my youth I had many compliments, but never actually saw anything worth having in myself. At my age now, I see old photos and can see that I was OK, not fat and ugly like I thought I was, and sometimes I even wonder what sort of life I could have had if I had believed in myself. That's the key thing, and once you've got that self-belief you won't worry about what you look like.

Oh, and tell me how you got it, when you do!

This actually made me smile. I, too, had never been happy with my looks. I'm pretty average looking, but I do 'pay for dressing', meaning there are times with the right clothes, hair, and makeup I look in the mirror and think 'not half bad'.

DH thinks I am beautiful. He always has, he always will. He thinks that Angelina has nothing on me. I'm old enough to be her mother (if I started young, that is). And I love him for it.

So don't discount what this young man says. It may very well be to him that you are beautiful.