DH and Birthdays

[Freddiethefirefly]

AIBU...... It's my birthday this week, not a significant one. I have been with DP 10 years and after the first one or two, I realised he wasn't really 'into' birthdays. ( my first birthday with him,he got me a clock and my 40 th, a pen)......I am not materialistic( they have been the only two gifts as we are usually broke)

However, I am hurt that on my birthday he finds it funny to not even wish me a happy birthday and pretend he has forgotten....he won't do anything with the children, they are 2 and 4, so I shall make a cake with them, as they love birthdays.

I know...a real first world problem, so now I expect nothing but am sad, especially when he will make jokes about it....

Birthdays are for kids. Adults shouldn't be as into them as they often are.

Someone should tell the Royal Family that birthday's are just for adults, the Queen has a big one coming up and it sounds expensive.

I think that is sad. No matter how old you are a day for you is a lovely thing, it is also a good thing for children to think and help with treating someone to have a nice day.
Why should birthdays only be for children?

It doesn't take much effort or money to make it special.

I hate that line "birthdays are for kids" maybe in your house.

But OP has clearly stated her feelings and they're being ignored. Your input wasn't helpful PP

Bullshit 'birthdays are for kids'. You may not celebrate your birthday but it doesn't mean the rest of us aren't allowed to.

LordBrightside has a bit of a history of helpful inputs; I think he enjoys his spartan righteousness.

Not being into birthdays or cards means you shouldn't receive them. Not that you shouldn't give them. I don't like peppers so I don't eat them. I still serve them to people that do like them.

Oh and the joyless nonsense on here... birthday/fun/toys/games/Christmas is just for kids. I like fun things. I didn't grow out of joy and fun. I hope I never do.

If he doesn't like birthdays I suggest you ignore his.

DH might genuinely not mind his birthday belng ignored but that's not the point!

No, but I don't see why if you're not going to be nice to someone you should get something nice and an effort made in return.

Your dh sounds horrible. It's one thing not to be into birthdays but finding amusement in mean behaviour is something else!

I'm glad you've got a nice day planned.

He know you appreciate a little recognition that its your birthday but purposefuly chooses not to do anything whilst rubbing your nose in it. Nice.

It doesn't matter what his views are on celebrating adults birthdays. It's normal parenting to involve your children in activities like writing a card and saying a happy birthday for someone else. Y'know teaching them to think about others and gosh in the process they will see a man doing this

Not that birthday's are the ony way to teach care.

Enjoy your birthday :) Good idea to involve the children with the planning.

If your husband pulls that trick again, I'd ignore his next birthday completely. Being broke is one thing- if presents are beyond budget, he could still help the children make cards or a cake for you - but laughing at your hurt is really quite mean.