to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

Cats and if everyone broke the "rules" where would we be?

What is the point of booking seats on trains/planes if other people just sit where they want.

If people are sitting in my train seat - which has happened often - I always ask them to move. It's not that i'm not nice - I just want what I have asked for,

Boney - Spot on re the rooms with the beach view room - where would it end if everyone just took it in to their heads to sit where they fancied and to hell with everyone else

I asked if you had any good P&C parking stories Cats but you never answered

I am still stuck on this bloody train

TheCatsMeow I actually felt sorry for you yesterday but have been appalled by your attitude on this thread. You're coming across as very sanctimonious, as though you think you operate on some higher moral level than others who disagree with you! I don't feel in this instance you're being picked on at all. You're being very presumptuous about other people's take on the world. I think the mother referred to in the OP was extremely rude and you're failing to recognise her role in this at all! She behaved in a spoilt and entitled manner and is teaching her child to behave in the same way. Teaching her that you get what you want by demanding it rudely and riding roughshod over others to get it!
Why do you refuse to see that!!!

Oh Cats

You are my new favourite MNetter.

yanbu you say no my seat and let the mum sort it out. why does some random mean you should be .....nice and allow their child your seat.
no way

lost OP actually did give up her seat. For a whole 7 hours.

What about if her child would have had more joy from having a business class seat - would it be acceptable for the mother to just sit her child in an empty one of those and ask the person who had actually paid for it to sit elsewhere?

lost that doesn't involve prepaid and prebooked seats. Not the same thing at all. And who are you being so sarcastic about? The OP did give up the seat.

don't understand why they couldn't have waited and asked.Might have come across better then plonking their child there and assuming be OK
If there wasnt the chance to pre book understand their problem more but there is!Want the window book the window it's not hard to do.Their child missing out is due to them no one else

I wonder if this applies to cinema seats with a "better" view in Cats' eyes.

Perhaps we ought to change to an almighty bunfight and crush and no one should be allowed to book seats at all. There are systems in place and sometimes you just want the seat you've booked. I've moved on short flights for people who want to sit near their wife/husband or whatever. No skin off my nose. Longhaul is different as you have different time zones and needing sleep.

No fucking way would I give my seat up. If it's that important to him, then his mum should have booked him a window seat.

I have an 8 year old. I'm mean and really okay with it :)

Of course it's a stunt to sit in the seat. If they thought it might be left vacant they could move across later. They were deliberately presenting the OP with a fait accompli.

Yep. Trying it on. I can't believe that people let people get away with it. She must have been amazed that it actually worked.

Well, TheCatsMeow's attitude goes a long way to explain where the child in my class was coming from today, when he deliberately sat in someone else's seat as they got up to fetch something. "But I want to sit here," he said. Maybe his mother has the same attitude, that "it's not worth upsetting a child over something so petty as a seat." Shame that consideration didn't extend to the child whose seat he'd taken.

I'm afraid I made him move.

Salmotrutta no why?

lost it is a British thing isn't it? My family is from a different European country and they're so much kinder to children. I knew it wasn't just me lol

The one thing that MNetters should take from these threads is IF YOU WANT TO HAVE CHOICE OF SEATS THEN PAY THE BOOKING FEE. Lots of people will not give up their seats, especially if you are entitled and rude!

This thread is hilarious.

Oh for goodness sake, stop making all these sweeping generalisations. It's not "a british thing". Same as it wasn't a "London" thing.

Re cinema tickets I bloody hate pre booked seats, should be first come first serve imo

I don't mind the two fancy rows at the back but I hate it when you can reserve each seat

It's my opinion that British people particularly in the capital are rude, self centred and stand offish. You're all proving my point.

Seriously other countries don't have these attitudes

WHY?

I don't go out in the street and give strangers children £100, its the same thing.

Cats, I'm not proud of it. But nor am I ashamed. I don't think it's an unreasonable decision. We were both young couples. We had booked our seats and paid for that. As we did when we went on our own honeymoon. The had the same opportunity. Why did they not bother?

How do you know where we all live? I might be posting from another country. I'm not saying because it will identify me. But stop assuming.