To just really, really hate mornings?

[stqueen]

Just that. Especially in winter when it's so fucking cold. I always wake up feeling tired & sluggish, regardless of how much I've slept and how many times DD woke in the night.

It takes me ages to get my shit together , if DH is around I don't speak to him or if I do it's mumbling & groaning, which usually creates tension & friction before the day has started!

Now, the other way - I can happily stay up until 2, 3 in the morning (can't and don't very often these days but still), and when I do I can be very productive & inspired! But mornings, no.

Is it just me or anyone else feel like this? I wish I was need to become an early bird.

[minesapintofwine]

It takes m exactly one whole hour to get a grip after waking up. You could set your watch by it. Wake at 6.30, grumpy, shouty, moany. At 7.30 I just feel it all seeping away. I HATE 6.30-7.30.

I'm an insomniac too.

[notquitehuman]

OP, you probably have delayed sleep phase disorder like me: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_sleep_phase_disorder It was much easier to manage pre DC, as I simply arranged to work later shifts and got up late! However, if you've got children it's a bugger to deal with. I can take absolute killer knock out sleeping pills and still be awake til 3/4am, and I often feel in physical pain until noon. I'm often so tired that I feel like I have morning sickness even though I'm not pregnant! Some people don't realise that these kind of disorders exist.

[roaringfire]

This is me too. DP worried when we had kids how I'd get up in the night/morning. To be frank, I worried too. I love my sleep, I love snoozing, I feel like I'm coming off drugs when I wake up. But I put off going to bed and am a real night owl.

I read something once on a website that waking up is all to do with when you feel asleep and you should not set your alarm to wake you mid sleep cycle and there was a calculator to work out optimum waking time so you don't feel sluggish but I lost the link before I could try it out.

[roaringfire]

I just googled sleep calculator and it I found it! Duh!

sleep-calculator.com/

[5madthings]

Yanbu this is me as well. I have never been a morning person and o have really tried, having kids did not change that just means I have to just get in with it but it kills me.

Interestingly my youngest child is like me, she hates mornings, despite goung to bed and getting twelve hours etc she is a nightmare in the morning. The boys are all fine, even teen ones cope better with mornings than I do.

Currentky almost 29wks preg with nocturnal baby so that isn't helping either.

I love the idea of being a morning person... But no matter what I try I can't do it.

[Butteredparsnips]

Funny how this thread tailed off this morning. Is it time for it to come to life again do you think?

My particular pet hate in the morning is DH being too cheerful. Bless him. He has most of his energy, and his best ideas on waking up. He ends up talking at me while I grunt in return. I need at least a pint of team and an hour of the today programme, before I can string a sentence together. The trouble is, when I come up with something brilliant at 11pm and want to let him in on it... he's fast asleep.

[RandomMess]

I am not a morning person but 20 years of parenthood and insomnia have trained be to not sleep much and get up early.

However I want to be ALONE as I get ready, plod around and have cups of coffee. If anyone dared to be chirpy around me it may well end up with me on some sort of assault charge

[stqueen]

It's 10.30pm and I've come to life! Evening to all fellow night owls

Seriously, it's a real PITA. I love to stay up late, watching films, reading, online shopping & mumsnetting but again the thought of a 7am wake up call from DD is making me die a little inside I could quite literally kill someone at 7am so much so I'm getting a bit of a reputation at work as well meaning colleague likes to point out (at any opportunity) that I'm not my professional best in the mornings; it's become a bit of a running joke I genuinely do want to be better in the mornings, but part of me thinks just suck it up & accept they're not my thing. Sigh. Like previous posters, I do find it marginally easier in the summer months, grateful for small mercies.

Thanks for the link roaringfire I'm going to give it a whirl tonight not holding out much hope & inclined to agree with a pp that it's just who I am

Right, what to do for the next few hours?

[FunnysInLaJardin]

I am an owl and DH is a lark. It actually works really well as we are neither at the extreme and so our household waking day is from 6am - 11.30pm which covers most eventualities DC speaking! I also feel physically sick if I have to get up before 7am and am interested that others feel the same.

[FunnysInLaJardin]

oh and the DC know to scram out of the kitchen for the hour after I wake to give me time for my brain to wake up. I can't abide the early morning twittering.........

[stqueen]

Funnys I like the household waking day logic, may pull that one on DH when he next whinges on about my lay in habits! We're covering a bigger bandwidth of time which surely must have benefits. I must say he's very good when not working & will get up with DD whilst I rot for an hour ok two longer. But then whinges about it!

[roaringfire]

I love to stay up late, watching films, reading, online shopping & mumsnetting oh yes, and drinking the occasional glass of wine.

I've always managed to work in quite laid back places and get into work for 10 even though everybody else started work at 9, and stay till 6/6.30. People have been accepting of this in me. DP is also very forgiving of my tendencies so I get cups of tea in the morning
I have three alarms to get me up, my clock set 10 minutes early (it has in the past been set as much as 30 minutes).Sometimes I still oversleep. If my wake up time is absolute, then I put an alarm clock across the room so I have to get out of the bed to turn it off.
Once I've had a cup of very strong tea I am OK.

[hollinhurst84]

Must admit despite being an owl, I'm always up way before I have to be
Mainly so I can drink lots of tea and get ready v slowly. Hate being late!

[stqueen]

Do you have any tips for getting up after a late night hollin? If I have a meeting, or an appointment or something fixed, I always get up, but with JUST enough time to make it. How I'd love to get up early to faff with my make up, have a cuppa or two & generally get my shit together.

I honestly think eating earlier is probably the key, as sometimes I eat so late I still feel full & bloated when I wake. Hence the sluggish feeling.

[banff82]

YANBU, you could be me. I'm a night owl blinking blearily in an early bird world My circadian rhythm is sleep at 2am and get up at 10am... that's the dream!!

I'm incapable of going to bed/sleep early, no matter how determined I am I just can't seem to be able to do it. Midnight is an early night for me. My tiredness evaporates in the evening, I get really productive and/or get distracted by TV/a book/Mumsnet and bam, it's 1am again. In the morning though, horror. It's torture and I swear I'm going to get an early night but then evening rolls round and rinse and repeat again and again...

I really wish I was a natural early night/early rising person, it would make life so much easier. Not least because DP is so his body clock is pretty much the polar opposite of mine.

[banff82]

^ all that said though, it's really only the initial getting out of bed but that I struggle with. Once I'm up and dressed I'm ok and I actually like my early morning runs/dog walks once I'm out and doing it, I just struggle to actually wake up and get out of bed.

[Pandora97]

I hate mornings almost as much as I hate chirpy morning people. I work shifts and in the day have to start at 7.30am! Hellish, I can't eat before about 9am otherwise I feel sick and don't get how people can eat breakfast so early. I normally just skip it for that reason. I don't function well before 10am at the very earliest.

I've worked near enough permanent nights this year which was great. I don't sleep as well during the day but I feel much more awake and with it on nights. And it's great going home at 8am seeing everyone else going to work and smiling smugly to myself in the knowledge that I'm going to bed. I did the majority of my academic work in the early hours as well - my brain switches on around about 11pm and is on fire until about 4am. Anything written in the morning would be a load of mumbo jumbo. Only problem with night shifts is that being a natural night owl trying to get out of that cycle is awful. It takes me weeks to try and get out of it.

I'm dreading having to work day shifts again and having to start at some god awful hour. I'm starting a new job soon and I don't know the shift times yet but it could be as early as 7am! Think I will tear my hair out and weep if that's the case.

[hollinhurst84]

Not really! It's just something I've always done, think it's fear of being late

[Buttwing]

I absolutely hate mornings and getting up, dc4 is such a bad sleeper he's been up since 5 and woke his brother up so I've had a two year old and a one year old climbing all over me since then. I could have actually cried

I struggle to go to bed in the evening because dd1 goes to bed at 9 and after that I feel like it's my precious time without any kids. I'm a sahm mum and three of them are still quite little so I love having no demands made on my which makes me want to stay up later.

My mum gets up at 5.30 most days I keep hinting she might want my boys put no luck

[FunnysInLaJardin]

it took me a while stqueen to bring DH round to my way of thinking. For years he played the martyr until I pointed out the benefit to him of me being more awake in the evening and cooking dinner/tidying up etc while he could watch TV and relax etc. Early risers have a terrible habit of taking the moral high ground and we have had a few arguments about how unfair that is and how much it pisses me off!

It is easier though now the DC are a bit older and less demanding in the morning. I always get to stay in bed at the weekend, but on the understanding that I do my fair share later in the day. I always did but I had to spell that out tbh.

[JessieMcJessie]

Yep, truly hate mornings and always have. I am not an insomniac but do focus best between the hours of about 10 and 2 am so if I have a big deadline I'll do better finishing the work at night than trying to get up early in the morning to do it.

I am very bad for staying in bed to (beyond) the last possible moment in the morning and then, like you OP, rushing to get ready and not having time to really look my best.

I do hate the assumption in society that late risers are somehow lazy or bad people.

Am pregnant and interested to see that many of you have said having children did not cure you!

[notquitehuman]

Morning people really do guilt trip you sometimes. Some of my ILs are farmers, and when we went on a long weekend with them they were up at 6am because that's a lie-in to them! I got really dirty looks for emerging at 9am, and some sarcastic comments about being a sleeping beauty. Har har.

JessieMcJessie - I was actually pretty good at the newborn phase! I got up for night feeds, then DS would wake up about 8am for a bit. After a bottle, he'd often sleep for a couple more hours so I could get a decent nap. It was the toddler phase that killed me! Luckily, he now plays in his room in the mornings so I can wake up naturally.