"". To me slim is no larger than a size 10 so around a 27 inch waist max.""
""I have s small frame""
I don't think the use of "Slim", means anything and it shouldn't.
We should just be concerned about how much body fat we are carrying (and how active we are).
My DD has a waist of around 30 and big hips, she can be a 10-14, in jeans, but she carries no excess body fat. She exercises and lifts weights, daily.
We're mixed heritage and all the women have big hips (and big thighs in a Beyoncé, way) we've all been bullied through our teen years, because of this.
The issue for people of Asian origin is their bodies laying fat around their 'middles' and you can visibly see that, so they tend to have bigger waists.
The issue for them (and everyone living in a developed country), is what they eat and how they exercise.
Looking at her, she's only bordering on being overweight, which for most Mothers, in their 40's, who have to work full time, is quite usual.
If you go on the thread about aging, most women like turning 50, because they have the time to exercise and they haven't got hormonal stuff going on.
Your high sugar diet, is more dangerous to health, than a woman being less than a stone overweight.
If your concern is health.