To be a bit sad my parents might not meet their future grandchildren?

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My parents had me fairly late in life (46 and 47). I'm 24 now and just about to embark on a professional career... I'm dating casually but no DP at all (in fact not yet had a serious boyfriend) and obviously no DC.

My parents keep young and healthy and are (touch wood) doing well. They both look like they're in their 50s still.

Every now and then my mum will say somewhat jokingly "don't leave having kids as late as I did!" and get a bit broody for grandchildren. I would love love love children but obviously need to meet the right person and get things in order first (career, spending time with DP before kids, travelling).

I just get a bit sad sometimes when I wonder realistically if they'll be able to meet their future grandchildren My dad in particular is getting a bit depressed and cranky as he ages and I just know grandkids would give him a second wind. They both adore children and would make brilliant grandparents.

Anyone else been in a similar position? I've always visualised my parents being hands-on grandparents and as time passes I feel like I'm denying them the opportunity. Sad really

DF was 26 when I was born and I had DCs at 30 and 32. Unfortunately they were only 6 and 4 when he died at 62 (cancer also) and their memories of him are fading. DM was 33 when I was born and is still going strong and a big part of their lives. So another you never can tell here. Most of my grief for my father is related to him not seeing his DGs grow up (dn wasn't even born when he died) and how much he would have loved them and been proud of them (welling up even though it was 7 years ago now).

YANBU.. It's hard. My dad died last year when my DS was a baby, he was 40 when I was born and I'm 30. It's just how it is... Absolutely gutting though as he was a fantastic grandad and not that old really, but people do die in their 60s. It was a shock to not have him here to be the grandad I'd pictured. My son will never know him! But I will talk about him all the time. My son knows no different, he won't feel he's missing out. My mum is a lovely grandmas but old and disabled so can't do much with him. It's just the risk people take having kids older... I make myself feel better by thinking how much I benefited from having older parents.

It does pang when I see friends my age with parents in their 40s and can be active grandparents. But you have to live life on your schedule..

you have kids when (and IF) it suits you, not to please grandparents.

that's it.

YANBU at all. My Dad died of cancer just over a year ago so will never see my children; he saw three of my DBro's 4 and I am so unbelievably jealous.

It is a valid cause for sadness, but there will always be something.

My DM lived to see my DS reach his late teens - but she passed away before he got into Oxford University. God, she would have loved to have known about that.