to be pissed off at my Dad?

[SoWhite]

My parents bought DH a really lovely Christmas gift.

DH decided to, without telling me, thank then by sending flowers, chocolates and a card to my parents in the post.

After payment and postage, DH told me what he had done. I didn't tell my parents, because it was supposed to a surprise.

I was on the phone to my Dad this evening. I asked had he received the gifts from DH.

Dad had received the parcels, but as he wasn't expecting anything he sent the delivery man away and refused to sign. Not open it and investigate, upon which all would have been explained. Nobody knows what happened to the parcel, and DH will not be refunded.

When I suggested that my Dad apologise to DH, I was rebuffed.

AIBU to be annoyed at my Dad for doing this? And to never surprise my parents with a nice delivery again, for fear of wasting my money?

at least you don't have to worry about him getting ripped off.

This is true. I wish he wouldn't read the bloody Express though. And repeat it as truth like a Bible.

DH is amused, but doesn't get it either.

Flowers Scam

There is scam going around about a box of chocolates being delivered, could DF be worried about that? Just get it redelivered to your house and leave it at that?

I always put a few sender details on the back of a parcel.

Surname/house number/postcode.

Might be a good habit to get into, unless there are problems with doing this? The PO always check for it though, so they must think it's OK, and query if I've left it off (Secret Santa etc).

In this case, your Dad would have recognised it was genuine. Although it presumably is to aid return.

Oh he reads The Express--that explains everything

so white I'm with you re the Express. I sent DM a parcel of edible treats; cakes, biscuits, sweets for Mothering Sunday a few years back. She also decided it was a scam because she had read about one in the Newspaper. Guess which one?

My PIL would do this, paper of choice for them would be The Daily Mail. Is it tracked? If so you can go online and arrange re delivery.

Your dad should have opened the delivery and checked the contents instead of summarily sending it away. And the delivery person didn't ask for any payment, which is the point of the flowers scam, so there was no reason for him to think it was that. YWNBU to not send him any surprises in future. Definitely see if you can chase up the parcel and get it redelivered or get your DH's money back. What a shame that your DH tried to do something nice and it has ended up like this. At least he is amused rather than disappointed.

Parents getting older can be hard. I think a lot of it is to do with the amount of time they have in retirement. They tend to know all the 'news' including exaggerated articles and know exactly how each day will pan out, so anything unexpected can seem odd.

Oh dear. I know how you feel.
my lovely lovely 70+ dad says to me most days " it says in the daily mail today" and then proceeds to tell me what's going on in the world according to the great Oracle that is the Mail

My dad would do this! He's paranoid about that kind of thing too. He is so cautious, so paranoid. Has one specific credit card he only ever uses online, deletes any email he doesn't recognise the address of, that sort of thing

His cards keep getting cloned though and someone recently stole £2000 from his bank account. So his paranoia doesn't pay!

My parents declined delivery of their Christmas present from me a couple of years ago - apparently they were convinced that they would be charged for it!

Oh dear. Thirty years back, DF and I were about to call Bomb Disposal after the postman left Dad a parcel addressed to him with his former rank. On that occasion, DW and DM gave us a flick round the ear. It turned out to be a crossword prize. Being a silly old bugger isn't age related.

The first time i met PILs about 6 yrs ago i sent flowers and chocs to say thank you for having me and nice to meet you etc. They decline them. They read the daily mail and lived in fear of everything. They never went on holiday or stayed away from their house overnight in 20 odd years in case someone broke in. They never came to our wedding. Such a waste.

Like that bloke whose grandad wouldn't open the windows in case a rabid fox came in and mauled him, because he read it in the mail.

Those silly "scam" headlines are enough to send anyone of any age into a paranoia frenzy. He probably feels very foolish now. Let it lie. Your DH's gratitude has been registered, even if your parents didn't get to enjoy the chocs and flowers.

That would explain my parents reaction - my mum decided they were a Mail family when dad moved from 'the works' to the office.