children's centre letter [Trigger warning for baby loss from MNHQ]

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Just opened my post from yesterday and in it there's a letter from the children's centre congratulating me on the birth of my baby and letting me know all the baby classes/activities in the area - I lost ds3 at 20 weeks and he should have been born Christmas Eve so already struggling...
AIBU to think there should be systems in place to stop this happening?

That's really rubbish. That should never have happened. Please complain. This was so easily preventable. Shame on them:-(

So very sorry for your loss xxxx
I lost my DS1 over a decade ago now. He was due around Christmas but was born in September. A card congratulating me on the birth of my new baby in the new year knocked me sideways. It was from Boots parenting club.
I think there's a version of the Telephone preference service only for baby related products and services, or there used to be xxxxx

Really sorry for your loss and how crappy of the Children's Centre. I MCd my first baby and had calls from Emma's Diary, Bounty and a free baby bottle arrive in the post around the time that baby was due and each time devastated me.

I didn't register with any of those things second or this time around so it couldn't happen again but nothing much you can do when it's "official" rather than marketing channels making the mistake, other than complain when you feel up to it.

Hi again,
This is the link
www.mpsonline.org.uk/bmpsr/
Hope it helps someone.

So sorry for your loss.

When I was pregnant with my DTs my local children's centre sent me a letter introducing themselves, congratulating me on my pregnancy and listing the activities I could attend when the babies were born. Before the letter was signed off, there was a paragraph stating 'if your circumstances have changed we are very sorry. Please accept our condolences.'

Clearly the people who send out these letters have no tact at all!

I'm so sorry op.

It's similar but someone turned up to take my Gran to the hospital for an appointment. She'd died 3 months earlier. My poor Grandad was in bits.

I'm sorry you had to go through this.
We lost our baby at 17weeks last year and got a phone call from our HV wanting to sort out our home visit one week before what would have been my due date, it was horrible. I contacted our GPs and made a formal complaint about it as I didn't want anybody else to go through what I had. They were very good and have since reviewed their systems.

I am so so sorry for your loss. You're in no way BU to be upset. Of course there should be systems in place to stop this happening.

A friend of mine had a similar situation following her stillbirth, the midwife came round 2 days later for a postnatal check then asked where baby was

Some awful stories here.

For my own part, last week I had a scan in the Fetal Medicine department, because of a previous loss. Afterwards, I was sent down to the Antenatal Clinic to sort out a clinic appointment with my consultant and explained this.

The receptionist looked a bit exasperated at me and said, "Have you actually had any problems?" I decided the blunt approach was the best one and replied, "I have had a dead baby."

Out of all the places where they should realise that patients from Fetal Medicine at the best of times probably aren't have straightforward pregnancies!

I am so terribly sorry for your loss, and to hear how many people have experienced similar sad events.

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