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aibu to send her to school

28 replies

jellypopmummy · 07/01/2016 02:12

Tomorrow is the first day of term (she's in p1) but my dd5 has decided to not go to sleep until 1:30am. She was put to bed at her normal bed time but has been up and down all night. I get her pattern might be wonky after xmas but she is doing the 'I need the toilet/water/cuddle' shenanigans, which just results in us taking her back to bed and not engaging. Am I being unreasonable to think she will just have to suck it up and deal or given her concentration will be off and likely her mood should I let her recover?

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buntingbingo · 07/01/2016 02:22

No way.. send her in. It's a life lesson.

NameChange7thJan · 07/01/2016 02:23

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corlette · 07/01/2016 02:27

YANBU. I'd send her too.
If she has a day off that makes for possible shenanigans tomorrow night. It's just dragging it out.
It'd be school as usual, followed by a quiet evening of bath, tea and early bed for the rest of week.
Good luck!

SladeGreen · 07/01/2016 02:51

Send her in. If you keep her off to "recover," then she will put on the same performance tomorrow night as well.

She'll be tired tomorrow but tough, that's life and she needs to learn.

timelytess · 07/01/2016 03:25

Might she have been stressed out by the impending return to school? I always was, when I was a teacher. I'd go with the general view, though, and send her in, so she can get back into the routine of school and so she can get good and tired ready for sleeping tomorrow night. Perhaps check at lunchtime that she isn't too tired for afternoon school, if that's how your school day is set up.

redcaryellowcar · 07/01/2016 04:25

I think I would send her, but maybe mention to her teacher, imagine if she's really exhausted they could call you to go to collect her earlier?

knobblyknee · 07/01/2016 06:02

Send her to school as usual, otherwise she learns to mess about all night if she wants to miss school the next day.
It will also - hopefully - teach her that staying up all night makes you feel really tired the next day.

Asskicker · 07/01/2016 06:36

Unless there was a genuine reason not to send her to school, I would.

Like is everything ok at school, is she anxious to return?

Janeymoo50 · 07/01/2016 07:12

Send her. She'll be tired tonight but early night then.

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne · 07/01/2016 07:14

She's probably slightly nervous about going back even if she likes school and doesn't recognise that's what she's feeling. Send her or it will only build up and be worse or the same again each night til she does eventually go back and realise its just same old same old and nothing to be nervous about! One of my kids gets a bit the same about any transition going back but is always fine once he's actually done whatever it is - gone back for the first day of term or whatever...

RealityCheque · 07/01/2016 07:17

I am amazed that even considering keeping her off school is an option!

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jellypopmummy · 07/01/2016 08:01

No, she loves school and wants to go in, it was just in case she would be tired etc. In she goes lol. Thanks

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Creampastry · 07/01/2016 08:26

Just send her in. Not an issue.

BeanGirls · 07/01/2016 08:36

Oh yes definitely send her in

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jellypopmummy · 07/01/2016 08:50

Got her up and she seems to be perky enough. I know she will crash later. Early night tonight definitely

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HSMMaCM · 07/01/2016 09:14

Hope you sent her in and warned the teacher. She will probably be crabby and grumpy all day and may fall asleep on her desk this afternoon, but she will be fine.

Topseyt · 07/01/2016 09:16

I would have no sympathy with her for that at all and would send her in without question.

wigglesrock · 07/01/2016 09:44

My 4 year old (P1) can have nights like that sometimes - can't/won't settle - we would have the odd night where's she's awake between 1 and maybe 3.30am. No real rhyme or reason to it, it's not before the first day back to school/birthday/school trips etc. She still goes to school the next day.

passion4pno · 07/01/2016 10:10

I would send her. Otherwise she'll keep doing this. Hate the bedtime battles. Hope things settle soon

Believeitornot · 07/01/2016 10:14

My 6 year old was anxious about returning to school - which only came out at bedtime and I asked him what was in his head (he was messing about). We had a chat and he settled really quickly. I didn't realise he was worried - he hadn't mentioned anything and usually runs into class!

Lurkedforever1 · 07/01/2016 10:17

Send her in. I think I would just tell the teacher/ office that if the teacher wants you to come and take her home at any point you will. (Obviously out of dds earshot. And definitely not cos dd tells the teacher she wants to go home, I'm thinking more if she falls properly asleep in class I'd want the teacher to know they have that option iyswim)

voodoolooloo · 07/01/2016 10:17

My 10 year old spent until 11pm reading under the covers last night. Only discovered when she fell asleep and dropped my kindle light! I've sent her in, although she's a lot bigger than your DD. It wouldn't even be an option to have a day off. Lesson learned. Early night tonight!

AndNowItsSeven · 07/01/2016 10:18

At four no way would I send her in, is she even compulsory school age yet?

WorraLiberty · 07/01/2016 10:19

Send her in.

I could never sleep the night before going back to school when I was a kid.

My 3 kids were the same but you just have to get on with it.

She certainly won't be the only tired child in class.

WorraLiberty · 07/01/2016 10:21

The OP's child is 5 I think?

Either way, not sending her in is just delaying it as it means the following day will become the first day back, so she probably won't sleep again the night before.

Where would it end?