To be annoyed at mil?

[Terrihat]

This is going to sound so bloody ungrateful, but basically mil gave ds 7mo faaaaar too much stuff for Xmas. She also gives us massive bags of clothes, toys etc for him whenever we go see her.
Prblem is we stay in a teeny tiny 2 bed flat and it always feels so cluttered.
I am always gracious and say thank you very much, put the clothes on him at home take pictures to send to her etc. obviously I do appreciate it, I know she saves us a fortune on clothes but it's got to the point I have literally no more space in my flat so things are gonna have to start going to charity shops etc!
For Xmas she gave us toys for him that are aged 2-3 years, so again just going to take up so much space. When I seen how much stuff she had bought for him I was actually slightly embarrassed, it was an overwhelming amount of stuff for a young baby!
But anyway, she also bought a wee table and chair set for him, it's huge and I do not have anywhere to put it. Ds has a room up at my dads, his own wee second bedroom, he stays a lot just now but he will stay even more when he's older, my dad lives round the corner and him and ds are wee best pals already. Dh mum lives about an hour away and he will not be able to ever stay with her, she doesn't keep well enough.
So anyway I put this table and chair in his bedroom at my dads and took a wee pic of him sitting at it, and tagged mil in the picture on fb, to let her see him sitting at it, I thought she'd like it.
Next thing, I get a PA message about what's the point in me buying stuff for it to lie in a spare cupboard etc etc.
I tried to explain its not a spare cupboard, it's a bedroom
That he will be staying in lots over the years, bit apparently I'm cheeky and rude. So I said ok fine I will move it into our flat. So now it is here. Taking up my whole living room ffs.
Was I being cheeky in the first place?

Maybe it's her way of feeling less left out of his life? It sounds like he spends a lot of time at his grandfathers and you plan even more. That must hurt when it's not for work childcare purposes.

Asking for cash or putting down gifts is really rude so I wouldn't do that.

Just send what you don't want to charity. Children outgrow or stain clothes very quickly anyway so always a high turnaround of those.

Put the chair and table back at your dads. Out other toys there too. If MIL is funny explain calmly and in an adult way that you would like your son to be able to use them as they are generous gifts but there simply isn't room in your flat to make best use of everything so spreading them out makes sense.

If she's still difficult just ignore it. You have been grateful and polite but don't allow her to dictate where you keep his belongings.

As for the pictures I do the same for my MIL and mum as it happens as they both live a way away. They really appreciate it.

Autumn my dad is a total hands on grandpa and I will never stop that.
He's been so supportive and helpful since I had ds and he will definately be spending a lot of time there over the years

You and your DP need to have a chat with your MIL. We've had to do this as we lived in a tiny house and simply didn't have space for big items. I charity shop/eBay/gumtree/give away/bin/re-gift items DD and DS get if they're not suitable (either by age or size), in fact I've just done this post Christmas. I only store too big or too old gifts if they're brilliant and really worth it.

We have bank accounts for both our children and I encourage donations into those where it's polite to mention it. I also let MIL/mum know what sort of things to buy, so DD had HappyLand for her first Christmas and birthday, meant we had plenty to play with, it's good stuff and we've kept it all for DS. It stopped a lot of random gifts if they had some focus and it's easier to store a box of HappyLand than store lots of different gifts. Same goes for Lego and Brio; I'd rather have a big amount of one sort of toy, especially if it's something that has lots of play hours.

Lots of clothes go to charity shops or the hand knitted items are being donated via Woolly Hugs to refugee projects. I just thank the knitters and I recently said to them that all items that no longer fit (also read: not to our taste) were being passed on to this charity.

I take the approach that if you really care about purchasing something we will cherish and use, then you'd ask us some specifics. My MIL bought us two beautiful Next snowsuits (secondhand) in one month and 0-3 month sizes. DS was born in June!!! I've kept them in the attic to eBay but would have charity shopped them if we didn't have storage. Obviously they got zero use, MIL loves to buy, saw them, thought we'd like them, didn't think it was summer. She just loves the purchasing of items, but obviously didn't think about the use. I feel no guilt in not using them and subsequently selling them. We thanked her but there was no photo of DS in them

Stop with Facebook and messages! Speak face to face.