How weird was this guy?

[Flamingoblue1]

Hi all. Hope you had a good Xmas and new year! I just wanted some advice and someone to clarify how weird this is. Over the festive period we went to the pub and an old school friend of Mr Flamingo recognised him and they started talking. This old friend kept telling Mr Flamingo he was punching above his weight and was lucky to have married me etc over and over again. When I was talking to this guy he was telling me about his girlfriend etc and then told me of anything ever happened to Mr Flamingo to find him on Facebook! We then sat on another table with other friends and this guy kept saying ' look at you with your pretty wife' that's bloody odd yes ?

I laughed spanglecrab.

Where are we going?

So totally speculating here but, this sounds to me as if it has more to do with this guy's feelings towards Mr Flamingo - he clearly doesn't like him very much and was trying to disrespect / piss him off in whatever way he could. It's socially acceptable to make a comment or two about how pretty someone's wife is, so this is how he chose to disrespect Mr Flamingo. That would be my guess anyway. And yanbu OP. His behaviour sounds weird and a bit passive aggressive to me.

@ spangle

YANBU
frikking weirdo, hope you don't have to see him again.

Ooooh are we stealth boasting?

At the weekend I was told by someone my age she was jealous of my non wrinkled face, then someone else said it was probably because I am fat and that irons out the wrinkles on my face.

Yes, that's right, I'm wrinkle free

This used to happen frequently to me back on the day, a few of my exes friends were flirty players. It amused me and was mildly flattering. My ex got annoyed occasionally as it can get tiresome when the same dickhead is harping on but on the whole he laughed at it too. These days I couldn't pay for that sort of attention. Lap it up whilst it lasts because your looks won't!

1. He thinks your dh is a loser
2. He thinks you are brainless and boring

Therefore you should both be offended by his behaviour.

elsa pissing myself here!!

My DH once told a whole gathering that my face becomes instantly wrinkle free when I take my bra off!

I didn't take that as any kind of boast and he found it difficult to speak with those scissors embedded in his face.

I don't think people op is stealth boasting. Why do people have to be so awful on here?!

It's something I've noticed guys doing OP. Once is a way of complimenting you without outright saying 'you're hot' and potentially pissing off their friend. Anymore is just weird and a pain in the ass. Also a bit creepy and tiring. IMO anyway.

I wouldn't be flattered, op

it sounds like you have been objectified and used in a strange male oneupmanshippy Mr BigBalls game known only to the two players

creepy

A woman tells of an experience that made her unconfortable, a man she didn't know repeatedly commenting on her appearance, and she is immediately (effectively) told to stop boasting. Think about how insane that is.

Comments like this man's are designed to unnerve you and put your husband down in the process. It's nasty, nasty behaviour and needs to be understood as so.

I don't see the op boasting about anything here.

If you'd told the twat to fuck off, Mr Flamingo would have no need to straighten him out.

Presumably you are unlikely to have anything to do with him again?

He sounds unpleasant / insecure/ jealous /petty but other than having a laugh with your husband about how weird he was, it doesn't really merit much of a discussion.

wtf? Is the OP somehow at fault for not telling the man to fuck off now?!

Agree with Palcum! Stealth boasting, indeed. His behaviour was rude and YANBU to find it odd, OP.

This behaviour had nothing to do with you and everything to do with their shared past.

Haha, he was genuinely shocked by the obvious gap between your husband's ugliness and your ravishing beauty!

Or just pissed and horny.

Creepy men are practically queuing up to tell my DP how gorgeous I am every time we're out in public.
He doesn't have to even know them. I shit you not.

just a normal day in Alabama land I'm afraid OP.
Don't get too excited, it's tiresome after a while.

You dont sound boasty. He is inappropriate and odd

I've said this to two different male friends (I learn slowly) at different times meeting their dp- oooh she's lovely, what's she doing goinng out with you ha ha.
Next time I see them, a few pints in "you said I'm punching above my weight, she's going to leave me, she could have any guy"
I've stopped saying it now. It plays on people's minds. I only meant it as in "your girlfriend is really nice, I approve".
Maybe he was pissed and a social klutz like me

FFS, why should OP be flattered by someone being an arse?

I've heard this said loads, it's a standard matey (and good natured) faux put down - "fucking hell mate, she's out of your league" means "you're an ugly sod". It's not about flattering the woman. And as I say, it's good natured banter between the men when I've heard it.

If he kept at it, he was either:
(1

(1) pissed
Or
(2) trying it on and thinks telling you you're pretty works

In either case, why tell OP to be flattered?

Spangle

Assuming this isn't a stealth boast, what AnyFucker said. I may have been flattered by this sort of comment when I was a naive 21yo, but I don't feel flattered by entitled comments from inadequate men these days.

alabama did you used to post on a different, baby centred forum not nethuns?