to think children should be randomly reallocated at birth?

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I think this would solve a lot of problems.

For instance, I have a tendency to experience anxiety. My DC therefore both inherit my anxiety genes and also learn from my anxious behaviours (even if I try to minimise this) - a double whammy. If they had been reallocated to someone else, and I had been allocated someone else's biological DC (perhaps with a genetic tendency to feel angry, say; something I suffer less often), this might potentially all get ironed out.

OK, so there are some potential problems with the scheme. But AIBU to think it might have its advantages?

Why don't you just NOT reproduce, if you have problems.

Thanks BeBeside

OP that is spectacularly bonkers, but would make a good novel. Get writing!

This with bells on. That would be a great premise for a dystopian novel.

""So, do you think people love their adopted children less than their biological ones?""

No they don't.

But they be happy if the child was suddenly diagnosed with a condition that meant removal because it clashed with an adoptive parents health?

I was a CP SW and I had to keep reminding myself, sometimes by re-reading files why we were taking a Mothers Newborn from her, it was still distressing.

The idea of removing babies from Mums unless the baby is in danger, should remain as being viewed as abhorrent.

Why don't you just NOT reproduce, if you have problems.

Excellent!
Please show me these problem free people you all seem to know!

What a fucking stupid idea
If you have issues with your parenting then deal with them yourself.

Or you could have no biological children, save them from your "genes", and adopt some. But I think you would mess them up too at some point, because of the learned behaviours you mentions.
Maybe you should instead have a pet?

Adopted children and children who's fathers are absent or unknown have issues when they have an undiagnosed genetic condition because they can't check the parents genes.

Thanks for your concern, Wizard. This isn't something that's a major issue, just an example. A tendency (like everyone has in some direction or another) which I'm aware of.

would it also iron out their bonkers gene inherited from you OP

Being light hearted, maybe we could swop our stroppy teens when they get to 13.

Actually I love the fact that my children look like my husband and myself. I love guessing what traits have come me and what traits have come from my husband.

Well, quite, hmc

It's a lighthearted musing not a manifesto promise

Quite. Are people actually reading this as if it's a serious proposal? Give your head a shake!

I love guessing what traits have come me and what traits have come from my husband.
Then imagine the fun you could have with millions of potential people to guess from...

Can we start now?

I can swap one lazy almost teen boy.

Quite clever, but Bone idle.

He has a very good shouty voice

Or do they have to be babies?

Certainly an interesting idea, OP. But could work the other way too; you might be confounded by the behaviour of another child because you have no relatable source memories from your own childhood.

I feel pretty problem free and so is Dh. Where do you draw the line?

Would we be inundated with waifs and strays?!

You know that saying "better the devil you know"? Well, that.

Shuffling kids around to be raised by different parents is a can of worms. Ask any adoptive parent the trials and tribulations (and joys) of raising a non-biological child. It's hard. Parenting is hard enough, why make it harder?

Joke reply, sent in the spirit of the thread, before anybody calls social services..

It's a lighthearted musing not a manifesto promise

I can't believe how so many posters have obviously not considered this and are suggesting OP has therapy, doesn't reproduce and are actually being quite rude!

Don't think I have any problems and would certainly object to having my dc being removed and replaced with ones that you point out have "problems."

If you know you have anxiety problems that could affect your children why not get some sort of therapy before having children so you can learn not to foist your issues onto your dc

So who is going to examine every parent in detail to ascertain these 'problems' then op???

Who is going to pay for it??

And how do you deal with culture, mixed culture etc??

oops my post doesn't read right.

When I say "I can't believe how so many posters have obviously not considered this" , by "this" I mean the quote in bold.