to ask when do you rsvp to a childs party

[soontobemrsmckeown]

Sent invites out today 22 of them. Rsvp by monday for party next weekend. Had two responses tonight. When do you tend to rsvp to partys dont want my dd will be 4 not having friends at the party as its costing a small fortune. Aibu to expect rsvps sooner rather than later?

Please do chase up any non-repliers, just in case they didn't receive the invitation. The polite ones may have spotted there's a party but feel it would be rude to ask where their invitation is!

Update: im waiting on 6 replys. 1 invite has not been given out as the child has not been at school. Quite happy wuth the number thats coming if the others turn up great if not there will be a good turn out for dd.

Usually as soon as I've found it in dd book bag - and it goes straight in the calendar so we don't get double booked. I feel very guilty if we have to say no.
Agree with pp it's very rude not to respond and fecking unhelpful!

Out of 18, I had to chase up 4 who didn't rsvp by the deadline, they all apologised for not letting me know they were coming. 1 I didn't have contact details for, but she text the night before.

That's quite good going! For next year, i'd send out invites before Christmas for a mid January party, then chase up the ones you've not heard from the first few days back.

Don't think two weeks notice and a few days RSVP time is enough really. I would blame myself if people didn't RSVP or couldn't come because I hadn't sent the invites out early enough. I wouldn't be surprised if people could come

It depends - if they give the invitation out a month in advance (for example) sometimes I wait a few days to check that nothing more exciting is going to come up (sorry ) but if it's a party in the next couple of weeks and I know that we've definitely nothing on I reply straight away.

I always make sure I RSVP though. There's nothing more frustrating than not knowing how many to cater for!

I'd say you need to chase people up if invites have gone into book bags not directly into the parent's hand. Its not necessarily people being "rude" - people may not have found the invites - the odd one may even have been put into the wrong book bag or lost by the child who took it out to look at etc.

I usually reply as soon as I have made sure the child can actually attend logistically, but sometimes don't know there is an invite until something jogs invited child's memory - my 8 yo is particularly guilty of receiving invites and filing them away somewhere I wouldn't think of looking, and forgetting to tell me about them... fortunately he has a fairly stable and set group of friends and so I have so far always found out during a conversation with another mum when picking up from football training or similar! That does lead to replying late though!

For my own kids I always chase up because my kids only invite kids they want at their parties, therefore it is in my interests to chase up any who might have forgotten to reply or not got the invite - IMO the professionally offended "if they cba to reply I cba to chase/ they are uninvited and its tough - if they turn up they can sod right off again, rude... rant, rant, flounce" stance a few people always trot out on MN (which I have only ever seen on MN) is cutting your nose off to spite your face.

DD's party is at the beginning of Feb and she's going to be giving invitations out on Monday then people have plenty of time to RSVP.