Okaaaay...
Well we'll all just turn a blind eye to abuse then, shall we? After all, it's the parents' choice if they want to raise them that way.
My brother is a bully. Emotionally, financially, physically occasionally. He bullies women. He has recently, pretty badly, bullied my mum (for the hundredth time, admittedly). I had a thread about it a few months ago, it was fairly resounding YANBU. His wife agrees with him
Because my mum, for the first time ever, didn't aquiscse to his demands (yet), he has decided to never speak to ANYONE in our family again (other than a few abusive messages to my sister for trying to help).
I think that saying you care about children when you think their parents are 'abusive' and 'idiots' is beyond insulting.
Of course we care about their DC! What a strange thing to say. We are very worried about them having to grow up in an angry environment where their father has episodes of blind rage for imagined slights. He has no friends (obviously), limited family on DW's side, they are very isolated and alone whereand how they live (their choice). But it's worrying that DC have to grow up in that.