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AIBU?

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to think DP is not 'expanding the kids vocabulary', he is being a dick

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livvielunch · 02/01/2016 23:00

DCS are aged 9, 4, 3 and baby. DP keeps purposely using alternative words for things when speaking to the DC. For example, he told them a friend we were going to visit had a bouncy castle in their garden. It was actually a trampoline and he was pissed off that the DC pulled him up on it and said it's the same thing He asked one of them to pass him bog paper and moaned at them when they didn't know what he was talking about. He asked the eldest if I had finished my 'brew' and again got annoyed when she didn't know what he meant. He told one to pass him the stroller instead of the pushchair for the doll and so on.

After about the fourth instance of him getting arsey with the DC over not understanding him today, I asked why he seems to be being purposely difficult. He said he's trying to expand their vocabulary by using alternative words for things...! Don't get me wrong, I do this but I change a word in context so they can understand the meaning. For example, if we're pretending to be magic I'll say I've transformed a dog into a cat rather than changed and they'll pick up and use the word in future. If they describe something as big, I'll agree that it's huge/massive/ginormous etc.

AIBU to think the DC are right yo be frustrated with his way and that he's being unfair by moaning at them for it?

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CalleighDoodle · 03/01/2016 00:29

Of course they do bertrand but ignoring that, bog roll is bloody awful and bouncy castle was wrong. He sounds like an absolute arse.

TiredButFineODFOJ · 03/01/2016 00:30

So the kids got excited over a bouncy castle- but there was only a trampoline.
So did he just fuck up and spend the day substituting the usual words with obscure ones in a misguided attempt to save face as part of a bullshit vocab exercise?
Or is he always a onanist wanker

AnyFucker · 03/01/2016 00:33

So, he's the kind of guy who uses a little kid's confusion to look like Mr BigAndClever ?

What a catch

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours · 03/01/2016 00:44

He's being a twat/pillock/arse/knob/idiot/fuckwit

(I hope I have extended his vocabulary for him there).

IguanaTail · 03/01/2016 00:59

Tell him he's got steak for dinner, then present him with a cheap little flabby hamburger and tell him it's the same thing.

ApplesAndPears1234 · 03/01/2016 07:28

Sounds quite a nasty way to go about expanding someone's vocabulary.

AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads · 03/01/2016 07:39

My kids both knew what a brew was and could ask for one before they were 18 months old DS is almost 2 and loves his 'brew' of warm milk.

It is definitely a word I use IRL though, multiple times a day. I didn't think there were people who didn't use the word brew!

But yes, there is no way that a trampoline is the same as a bouncy castle.

Greydog · 03/01/2016 07:52

Just to be awkward, we often have a pannad! As well as a brew.

Hellochicken · 03/01/2016 07:52

I agree op he is not trying to expand their vocabulary, he is being a dick. Hear "brew" all the time irl, but "bog roll" not "bog paper"?

Fatrascals · 03/01/2016 08:08

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BrianButterfield · 03/01/2016 08:13

Sometimes I use words DC don't understand but if they look baffled I explain what it means (and then DS uses the new word at every opportunity!) In fact sometimes I deliverately use an unusual synonym for vocabulary-expanding purposes but always in context and with an explanation.

Jengnr · 03/01/2016 09:37

He is being a dick and not a particularly clever one at that.

Can't believe your nine year old doesn't know what a brew is though :)

dementedma · 03/01/2016 09:50

my 13 year old wouldn't know what a brew was. cup of tea here.

DonkeyOaty · 03/01/2016 10:24

Nor mine, dem. Cup of tea here, too.

I think the OPs partner is trying to make the children feel stupid/confused. It's not kind imo. My verdict? He's being a dick.

Topseyt · 03/01/2016 10:51

He is talking bollocks.

Most if those are not words I would automatically use every day, though I know what they mean. I wouldn't expect to hear them from the kids.

Oh, and a bouncy castle is definitely NOT a trampoline. I would pull him up on that one too. They are totally different pieces of equipment.

You don't expand vocabulary by using the wrong word.

CreepingDogFart · 03/01/2016 11:06

Bog roll?

AntiHop · 03/01/2016 11:21

He sounds like a bully.

whois · 03/01/2016 11:32

No one needs teaching 'bog paper'.

Katedotness1963 · 03/01/2016 11:47

Can he really be expanding their vocabulary teaching them slang? And picking a word out of thin air they've never heard before and expecting them to know what he means is just daft.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 03/01/2016 11:50

It is definitely a word I use IRL though, multiple times a day. I didn't think there were people who didn't use the word brew!

I don't. I agree with Bertrand. It's not an expression I hear in real life.

He sounds deeply unpleasant (and a bit thick)

EastMidsMummy · 03/01/2016 12:40

OK, we have established that some people use a brew to mean a cup of tea and some don't. Can we leave this part of the thread now??

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