People that don't say thanks when you hold a door open for them should be boiled in oil (light hearted)

[DyslexicScientist]

Is it me or does anyone else get the rage when people don't even a know edge or say thanks when you've spent precious seconds doing something purely to help them?

I should I just boil myself?

I find a muttered "no, thank you" suffices. I try to avoid carrying my pot of boiling oil with me in busy spaces.

It's when a string of people come through the door, ignore you, and don't take their turn holding it. You're left standing there like an unpaid doorman...

It really bugs me too.

As did the lady in the shop queue behind me the other day who was so far up my arse she could have been wearing me as a hat, she kept muttering about how the shop was always busy when you're in a rush, so when my turn came I said 'would you like to go ahead of me since you're in a rush', she pretty much elbowed me out of the way, put her shopping through and didn't bother saying thank you. Rude, rude, rude.

Or when I was accused of going slowly on purpose at the checkout. I go slowly because if I rush I drop things. As a lovely lady who works in our Sainsbury's says, "If you're in a rush, why don't you come 10 minutes earlier?"

Precious seconds?

I either don't notice them being rude or I live in a very polite area, because I don't recall this ever bothering me.

I find most people polite and so say thanks or smile etc. If they don't I might add a cheery 'Thank you!' just to make a point

Unfortunately some people have no manners.

I always say 'you're welcome' in a loud cheery voice, if someone is that rude.

I also get infuriated, but I say you're welcome' in a loud cheery voice. That makes me feel better

I doubt I'd notice if they said thank you or not and I couldn't guarantee I always say it myself.

Holding the door for the person behind is just one of those things you do, a habit. If lost in thought it's possible not to realise someone's done it for you or that youve done it for someone else.

I think minding about these things probably means you need to find a few more things to think about 😀

Is it possible to boil someone in light hearted oil?

I suppose you could use one of those Acti frys, that only requires one tablespoon.

Yes, it annoys me too. Not in a boiling oil sort of way just as a momentary seethe. Little positive social interactions with people are one of the things that make life pleasanter.

It's one of the little social niceties that are falling by the wayside as people become more me, me, me and insular. It's a shame we can't interact better with others.

Little positive social interactions with people are one of the things that make life pleasanter.

Yes yes yes! Just a few of these nice interactions a day can really make it all the better. Glad its not just me that finds this.

a giant actifry with a stirer with a blob of lightly steamed coconut oil with a high smoke point and suitable for cooking with.

I derive enough pleasure from my sarky "You're WELCOME" to compensate for my rage.

I'm another cheery 'You're welcome' person.

Saying 'thank you' is (or should be) ingrained behaviour. I have an incredibly bad relationship with one person at my thankfully large workplace. Mediation was useless so we both settled for avoidance, mostly ignoring each other but with occasional glowering across the room, and the odd email argument.

I still hold the door open for him because he still says thank you. He hates doing it though, which just makes me laugh.

I embarrass my son by saying "you're welcome" in a very loud voice if someone fails to nod or smile or say thank you. Close to DS high school there is a zebra crossing where I have to wait for hoards of teenagers to cross. They are usually engrossed in conversations or their phones but how I love the ones who smile or give me a discreet little wave ( obviously it is uncool to show thanks!)

I'm amused that you had to put "light-hearted" after the title. I'm wondering just who would think you might be serious!

I tend to go for the passive-aggressive thank you myself as I hate grease splashes if cooking oil gets too hot

I stopped holding doors open for teachers at school for this very reason. Respect goes both ways.

red As a pupil, you refused to hold doors open for teachers, because they didn't say thank you?

'Friendly' respect goes both ways. Respect for authority/respect for ones elders goes only one.

I always say thank you, especially when I have my pram. There's been times when I've held doors for women with prams and they don't bother saying thanks, usually they are foregin though. But it is annoying

YABU to write "lighthearted"

Those who don't say thanks for holding a door open should absolutely be boiled in oil

Olive oil, it's good for the complexion (unconvincing/lighthearted)

It does make my weewee bubble I agree.

Some bloke waltzed behind me thru the door as I struggled with my bag so as not to slam it in his face. I evily wished I'd let it go thwaaaap.

It reminds me of the quote about someone who was thanked for opening the door because of them being a lady. To which he replied that he had not opened the door because she was a lady, but rather because he was a gentleman. .. touche (with an accent on the e!)

maid don't you think teachers should be setting an example by using manners themselves?

So we should be teaching our kids that anyone in authority or older doesn't need to be polite?

Maybe do this....