to think dh should suck it up and make an effort?

[mrsm12]

I've a really close friend who I've known for 20 years but who moved away about 5 years ago. When she comes home for visits or christmas we always meet up. We've both had kids in the last few years so it's getting slightly more difficult to meet up. I invited her and her dh for dinner and to stay with their ds tomorrow night, we live fairly remotely and they don't drive. My dh is in a mood about it now, apparently he wanted a quiet night just us. This is the first he's mentioned it despite me telling him last week that I'd invited them.
My dh and friends dh would be quite different but I think for one night he should suck it up? Aibu?
And for the record we've had his family to stay and been on a night out with his friends over Christmas!

Yanbu as you gave him a week's notice. Different if you sprung it on him.

Oh and just read your last sentence! Definitely NBU

YANBU. You've given him notice and had his family to visit.

You're right. It's only one night, he should suck it up!

He should suck it up and make an effort, but I would have thought that you would have discussed them staying with him before inviting them.

Surely if you invite people over, you check it's okay with your partner first? That's just basic manners isn't it? Unless as a general rule neither of you do that I guess.

Did you ask him or tell him it was happening? I would be pretty fucked off to be told how I was spending my NYE.

If you asked him and he agreed, then he has no right to be so mardy.

It very much depends what the norm is for socialising at NY in your house - we have always gone out and I'm usually in charge of making/accepting those arrangements so me inviting friends over and "announcing" it would be fine but I understand others would expect more consultation.

Did you say 'I have invited them to say next week'

Or specify it was news years eve.

Tbh I wouldn't be happy with dh just inviting someone to stay New Year's Eve.

I think that he should chill out and enjoy the evening. But ultimately he will do what he wants so I think that you should just focus on enjoying the time with your friends and don't let him spoil the evening.

i've been told we are having two dsd and a toddler visiting tomorrow to our busy household by dh prior to scuttling out the door, not best happy and i'm probably bu.

Sounds as though he doesn't reallyk know them. If that's the case I can understand his reluctance to spend NYE with them as houseguests .I wouldn't be happy in that situation.