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WIBU to not do any cleaning?

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supersop60 · 29/12/2015 20:14

Having just returned from a deeply unsatisfactory visit to the PIL, DP and I were discussing their lack of cleaning (I ran a cloth round the bathroom). The are getting on now (79 and 83) although MIL in particular is still very active. DP reckons his home was always dirty when he was a kid.
Here's the rub - he said to me 'well we could do more cleaning here'. I was so shocked - I do a lot of cleaning, but mostly when he's not around. WIBU unreasonable to not do any cleaning for a while, and then he can see how much I actually do?
Or are there any better suggestions out there?

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 29/12/2015 20:15

Well if he's bothered he could certainly do some cleaning...

Arfarfanarf · 29/12/2015 20:16

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BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 29/12/2015 20:21

ex thought the new one year old fridge freezer was still lovely and white because it was new... not because I wiped it down when it was showing marks.

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 29/12/2015 20:21

...so yanbu. let him clean as you are doing your half already.

supersop60 · 29/12/2015 20:22

To give him his due - he does the hoovering and often mopping, but he's rubbish at skirting boards, doing behind the sofas/under the bed etc, doesn't see cobwebs anywhere or dust on the shelves.
I'm tempted to quote Caitlin Moran at him.

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LadyDeadpool · 29/12/2015 20:23

Sounds to me like he was trying to defend his parents from being bitched about behind their backs.

witsender · 29/12/2015 20:24

I'm more surprised about you running a cloth around their bathroom for discussion later.

supersop60 · 29/12/2015 20:36

no no no - HE brought up the lack of cleanliness, NOT me. I don't bitch about them. I think they should get a cleaner - HE thinks his DPs need the physical exercise of cleaning. They have long haired dogs that aren't well groomed, and he's allergic to the hair (always was, even as a child - dogs always came first) I believe that they are just more set in their ways as they get older.
The visit was unsatisfactory because of having to wade through a flood at the bottom of their road and because of tensions between DP and his DF.

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