...to think I'm too young for Tena lady?!

[minnymoobear]

may be a bit TMI!!
I'm 40 and feel like a 4 month old lately...keep trying to get to the loo when I need to pee and last few weeks have peed in my pants while trying to get there :(
I wear panty liners and they get wet and even now take spare knickers to work just in case :0
Any advice on what I can do to stop it- or do I give in and use Tena instead of pantiliners?

Thanks in advance

1st get checked in case you have an infection, 2nd try pelvic floor exercises, 3rd get surgical referral. I had this in my 30's and had surgery - best thing I could have done. No problems for 10 yrs. Can jump around totally free. Women don't have to put up with pads!

Op I'm 42 and similar, it happens to the best of us!

I wear panty liners most days but I only get a dribble here and there not full on wetting myself if that makes sense. I just know I'm wetter than I should be.
I asked the nurse to have a gander when she did my smear a few weeks ago to check everything looked ok down below and although she said she couldn't do a proper pelvic exam (had to be a gp annoyingly) she did say it all looked ok as far as she could tell. She said pelvic floors would be the first thing they would try with someone like me before anything else.

So I have been doing them when I remember .

Maybe a trip to the gp op?

I found going swimming helped strengthen my pelvic floor a lot. I'm 55, had 3 vaginal births, and only have a problem if I have a bad cough.
If exercise doesn't improve things I agree you go to the doctors.

Go to the GP! I've been to my GP about a bladder problem and they were SO helpful. Problem is now controlled with a change in diet and bladder training, but I was also referred to a urology clinic immediately in case it wasn't. I was 35 when I was referred, they certainly don't just treat it as inevitable.

my pelvic floor is pooed. and i have a slight prolasp the nurse at docs surgery said to do loads of pelvic floor. and that will help with both. she said shes not worried about the prolasp as its small. but if it gets worse could become incontinent if that happens they can do an op

After you have checked you do not have a uti

www.pelvictoner.co.uk

That item is availible on perscription in the UK. It is incredibly effective

Vitamin d3 tablets may help too.
There was a BBC article today about people suffering from this issue and not getting the help available.

Doubley incontinent since 25 due to prolapses. Undramatic, they have recently agreed to operate (i'm 30 now), but with only a slim chance of it working.

See the doctor, but you're really not young to deal with it at 40.

Well I'm 25 and have incontinence issues, thanks DS. I'd have thought myself rather lucky if I'd gotten to 40 without so much as a sneezewee

I hadcthis and it was a uti so first port of call is gp. I am 238 with no kids if that helps.

Wow! Loads of replies, thanks guys!
Feel much better already ...will make a physio appt and get checked over.

Had bloods etc done a few months back and all was clear- need to go to gp re migraines so will raise this then

I'm doing pelvis floors right now- prob 3 kids and 13 years too late- wish I'd acted on the advice then eh!

I'll get some Tenas while I go to drs, getting paranoid about smelling of pee😧 Might stick to my elasticated trousers for a while...

Thanks again for the advice x

Cutting out caffeine has helped me massively. I have decaff tea and coffee and don't miss the caffeine at all. I used to get sudden urge to go and had to carefully plan everywhere I went! I can go 3/4 hours between loo trips now compared with barely making it to 30 minutes before!

I'm 27 and been using tena lady since I was 24.
I have had stress incontinence since I was 14 but it got horrendous after having DS.
I went for physio which did no good. My pelvic floor scored a 4.5/5 on the scale, it's the muscles that hold my bladder up that don't work.
3 women in my family have been operated on for the same issue. Its apparently hereditary.
They wouldn't operate as I wanted more children but now my family is complete in going to see about it.

Well bought my Tena ladies today- aldi version so will see how we go!
Funny how thing happen and you think you're the only one experiencing something and then you find out you're one of many- always makes me feel better so thanks for sharing
My friend has had prolapsed bladder and been thru op but still suffers way more than she should :(

I wear all the time and think I have just accepted it now - my second child was 9.5lbs .

*When I had a sedentary desk job I seemed to need to go more quickly and more often.

Can hang on for hours now am retired and have time to walk regularly.*

Do you also drink less because you're not sitting around getting bored at a desk? I drink a lot, and go to the loo a lot (although I don't wet myself).

I also notice how much less I need to go if I don't drink coffee, or I will feel I need to go, but not nearly as urgently as if I've had coffee and I can hold on a lot longer if eg I am on a car journey. So I have coffee at home but not if I am going out.

I have also heard that running strengthens your pelvic floor. No idea if that's true but it would be a useful side-effect of running! I also swim so maybe that also helps. I only had one baby which probably also helps.

I was advised against running for my mild prolapse because of the pressure the impact of running puts on the pelvic floor!

Pilates has done well for me though! I've found doing pelvic floor exercises whilst propping up my hips (or holding them up) whilst lying on the floor has helped too.

I'm 43 and I've had moderate stress incontinence since having ds (11). I asked for a referral to a gynae physio and she has really helped with getting the right exercise technique to strengthen the muscles. It has definitely improved a lot but still got a way to go. Really important to do the exercises regularly and to increase the duration over time.