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To tell them to shut up

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CommunistLegoBloc · 28/12/2015 23:53

New neighbours. Not met them yet, but they're very loud. I think they're having a gathering - no music mercifully but loads of shrieking, shouting, thumping etc. I've got to get up in 6 hours. When is it reasonable to go and introduce myself and ask if they'd mind keeping it down? Or isn't it? Argh. I don't want a stressful sleepless night but equally I don't want to get off on the wrong foot. But honestly, who doesn't realise their noise levels might be intrusive when they live in a terrace?!

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abbsismyhero · 28/12/2015 23:56

who doesn't realise their noise levels might be intrusive when they live in a terrace?!

people who have never lived in one before

SevenOfNineTrue · 28/12/2015 23:56

Anytime after 11pm is fine to go over, be nice but ask them to keep it down. Big smiles, all politeness but point made over you having to work tomorrow even when others do not.

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CommunistLegoBloc · 28/12/2015 23:57

But isn't it obvious? Argh. I can hear every word but couldn't with previous neighbours so can only assume they're not talking at a normal volume

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FlatOnTheHill · 28/12/2015 23:59

I would let it go this once. Once you meet them you will get a gist of roughly what they are like. They might be really nice. Bare with it OP this time.

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CommunistLegoBloc · 29/12/2015 00:02

I suspected that might be the more reasonable approach, flat. I suppose I'm anxious that it'll become more regular but I can deal with that as and when!

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Pipbin · 29/12/2015 00:11

I would do the exact opposite of what Flat said. Why should you let it go? It's not unreasonable at all.
If you let it go this once then they will think it's ok and do it again.

theycallmemellojello · 29/12/2015 00:14

I think it's fine to go over, but the first ask has to be polite and friendly. Hopefully it's just a flatwarming so one-off. The fact that there's no music is a good sign - presumably they realise it's too late.

Pipbin · 29/12/2015 00:16

Quite. Be extremely English about it.
'I'm ever so sorry, but I have to get up in the morning and it is a little loud, would you mind keeping it down a little? Thanks ever so much.'

FlatOnTheHill · 29/12/2015 00:19

They are new and should be more considerate. Better to meet them first on better footing though. Rather than first time with a 'quite rightly so' complaint.
OP has to live there. Shes does not know what they are like. They could be the type that could make her life a misery. She needs to see what they are like then she will know how to handle any future situations. Does that make sense Op

abbsismyhero · 29/12/2015 00:22

i would go for soundproofing if i ever had to live in a victorian terrace again

Pipbin · 29/12/2015 00:47

So she should just put up with them making a row because she hasn't had a formal introduction yet?
They are making a row, if they are the kind to be cocks about it then they will be cocks about it no matter what.

Mincedpie · 29/12/2015 07:29

I hope you managed to get some sleep op. We are having similar problems with our newish neighbours, they seem to have a gathering twice a week either on their drive Confused or in their back garden. Not music just loud voices, singing, shrieking etc until the early hours, although last nights is still going on now Hmm.

I fear they will make more noise than ever if we say anything, so haven't yet.

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