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AIBU to worry about this?

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Funkymusic · 28/12/2015 09:53

My dc are 4 and 20 month and this christmas theyve barely eaten a decent meal between them!

Theres so much sweets and chocolate been given by family members there not bothered about meals and i feel bad saying no constantly and get funny looks from everyone for been strict at christmas.

I literally get so fustrated watching them stuff there faces with crap and barely touching their meals. So should i suck it up because it christmas or am i right to be strict?

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DoreenLethal · 28/12/2015 09:54

I'd collect it all up this morning, lock it away and let them have a choice of two things each twice a week.

Or just bin all that shit and make a home cooked meal and tell them it is all gone.

TimeToMuskUp · 28/12/2015 09:57

It depends on their general health and how much this matters to you; if they're normally fit and well I can't imagine some extra sweets and biscuits will hurt long-term. Mine are 10 and 4 and I'm normally a bit militant about eating a balanced diet but at Christmas with visits, parties and general lack of routine I let it go. Come next Monday we're all back at school and work, and I know we'll be eating regular meals and healthy foods, so I'm ok with relaxing the rules til then.

Having said that, we have friends whose DCs don't have sweets or chocolates at all, and they don't relax that just because it's Christmas. Horses for courses.

LIZS · 28/12/2015 10:01

Surely they are young enough that you can limit the amount of sweets they eat. Aim for one "proper" meal if you are out socialising and be firm with the adults. In the short term the oddday will not do harm but may create poor habits and precedents.

CMOTDibbler · 28/12/2015 10:02

Put it all away today - our chocolate will last until the summer as once out of sight, out of mind

Junosmum · 28/12/2015 10:03

Christmas day is a day for chocolate for breakfast. Boxing day is a day for more more chocolate than normal to be consumed. After that it's a normal diet with extra pud until NY day when it's big family meal and back to normal.

Obvs the above is only my personal opinion but that's to say YANBU.

thefreshcleanstart · 28/12/2015 10:05

I think it needs to go away.

i this juno is right on this - a 20 month old and 4 year old should definitely be having proper meals.

skankingpiglet · 28/12/2015 10:07

I'd do what Doreen said, and ration from now on in (2 a day is generous IMO though!). What they have left can be their treats until Easter. Hopefully that will get their appetites up and running again! A couple of days of eating crap over Xmas is fine, but it's passed now. If any relatives try telling you that you are being cruel, I think I'd close the conversation down by explaining just what effect eating all this rubbish has had on their bowel movements, and the need for a bit of fibre Wink

FairyFluffbum · 28/12/2015 10:08

My kids got so much chocolate it was ridiculous....And I don't normally ration it.

When my daughters(son is too young) back was turned I hid it in the cupboard and restrict it.

She can have some every other day.

She still didn't eat properly over Christmas though. Was too excited over her presents and what was going on. I wasn't worried as she's normally a good eater. She will probably start her good eating diet again now it's all calmed down

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Funkymusic · 28/12/2015 10:09

Ive put all the sweets and chocolates in the house away. The thing is we have been out at parents and other relatives every day so there meal routines are all messed up as there will be nibbles out and they just get upset with my constant nagging them to get them away from the chocolate then when a meal is served there just not interested.

Ive kind of given up and just get strict once were home properly!

Were just about to leave for there nights with my sister where no doubt the only food available will be sweets chocolates mc donalds or takeaway pizza arggh!

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Funkymusic · 28/12/2015 10:10

Three nights*

Sorry typing and packing!

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pilates · 28/12/2015 10:12

Yes I would take it all away and put in the cupboard.

Once they have eaten a decent evening meal they can have a small treat.

DisappointedOne · 28/12/2015 10:12

DD (5) goes through phases of eating very little. Most of her peers do too. Nothing to do with chocolate. She's offered "proper meals" but has little appetite at the moment. Not worth stressing about - she'll be back to eating well soon enough.

Clutterbugsmum · 28/12/2015 11:49

We got enough chocolate to sink a battle ship (or so it feels) once News Day comes it's going away.

Although mine do really eat chocolate and will probably still eating it come Easter.

Baressentials · 28/12/2015 11:58

I think after a couple of days of 'normal rules' going out the window then dc actually benefit from their normal routine and normal diet apart from my teenager
So put the sweet stuff away and let their bodies readjust themselves.

oops sorry - just read you are going away again. Take plenty of nice fruit? I would personally say suck it up for the next few days. Chill out about it. Give them some healthy meals when you return home. In the grand scheme of things, if they generally have a good diet (and aren't suffering from the sugar etc) then it will all be ok.

2snugglets · 28/12/2015 12:03

Same here, I keep putting little pots of grapes and satsuma next to them as they've got into this nibbling on stuff throughout the day. Also got in some little cartons of apple juice, just to get some thing healthy in them. hoping to get one decent meal in mine today

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