To cancel new year's eve?

[jorahmormont]

Obviously not to cancel new year's eve full stop, I can't exactly control time, but just to cancel our plans even though it will inconvenience others?

Our original new year's plan was to have a couple of friends over for a takeaway and a few games of Cards Against Humanity after DD goes to bed. A friend told us she had nowhere to go for new year and invited herself to stay with us. In a moment of stupidity we said sure, I didn't like the thought of anyone being alone etc.

I've made previous whiny threads and the basic gist is that as well as some kind of injury to my leg making me want to lounge in my PJs all day (I can do this with the friends we had coming over but not the one who's invited herself) as well as anxiety etc and now I don't want the friend who invited herself to come, and I would still like my other friends to come over but I know that wouldn't really be fair but they live five minutes away and wouldn't be staying, unlike this other friend who is travelling a few hours and will be staying overnight. So I have to cancel new year plans altogether really, but WIBU to do that when she has made plans to travel up to us?

Sorry I don't know if any of this makes sense, I've been up since 5am stressing about it :(

[jorahmormont]

Yep catastrophosising again. Need to wait til tomorrow and see how I feel. Fingers crossed it's just a reaction and will be gone by morning. Sorry

[CFSsucks]

Is D and V a common side effect of the painkillers? I'd see how you are tomorrow, see what your DH and DD are like and give your friends a heads up that you aren't well and at the moment are unsure if it's a side effect or not. That way if you have to cancel it won't be sprung upon them.

I get anxiety too and it's rubbish to analyse every little thing and build it up into a huge deal. I catastrophisise a lot too.

[Bunbaker]

Don't be sorry. D and V is horrible. Get well soon

[jorahmormont]

My friends have just had to cancel as they're feeling rough and want an early night :( I can't even figure out why but it's kicked my anxiety off all over again now it's just going to be me, DP and his friend :(

[SaucyJack]

Are you anxious, or is she just boring....?

I'm sure you're not the first person to have a guest round that you have little in common with, and you won't be the last.

It's just one night. It won't be the end of the world to make polite chit chat for a couple of hours as a favour

[jorahmormont]

She's not boring she's a nice person. I can do polite chit chat etc that's not what I'm worried about. I don't know what I'm worried about to be honest.

[rookiemere]

Are you still suffereing from D&V?
If so then you can cancel with a clear conscience.
If not then I'd say go ahead, your DH should let her know it's going to be a quiet night with just the 3 of you. She may choose not to come.