to be annoyed at my Dad

[BooOzMoo]

Invited Dad for Christmas. We lost DM June last year and had my dad and DH DP's last year.
Dad is normally okay , he's deaf so shouts a lot and has COPD.
He came and last visit was 3 weeks ago. Then we took DC to choose xmas presents. He left them here for me to wrap.
He arrive on 23rd with just his stuff! No wine, no beer, not even a box of chocolates for the kids.
While he's here, been really fucking annoying. He calls my 4 year old a snob constantly. He loves to annoy her and now she just give him a look as if to say fuck off whatever. He regularly calls me a bitch. Everything we watch on TV is shite and he wants what he wants on TV. We only eat shite food ! He's sat on his arse for 4 days, been fed, bought his own beer as DH beer is shite, prosecco is shite, he has full access to DD room to sleep.
I've just felt like he's spent the whole of Christmas trying to piss me, DH & DC off !!!
He's from Liverpool and swearing is just his normal vocabulary. I've lived down south for 15 years so somethings I go have changed .... I just fm feel like I've been run ragged with 3 kids and then one extra big massive 69 year old kid.
I had to take him out yesterday to give the kids a break from him annoying them! Also thought DH face was getting too red!!!
He's not normally this bad!

I lost my dad a few months ago and my mum is behaving a lot like your dad. We've been cutting her some slack because she is obviously going through an horrendous time but her rudeness and selfishness is wearing us all down. She made me cry on Christmas day by telling me I was huge and my (adult) niece has had to remove herself from situations more than once because my mum won't stop chipping away at her.

It's difficult because you love them and want to be supportive as you can but you can only take so much. I'm wondering if it is almost like children when they test your boundaries. They are almost "playing up" to see if you will still love them.

Is there anyway you could get your dad to see a doctor? This verbally confrontational and aggressive behaviour is a classic sign of dementia. People with COPD often have reduced oxygen levels which makes everything worse.