To consider having another baby.... Logically it doesn't make sense

[ThinkingBlue]

We've 2 ds's who are wonderful. They are almost 3 and 5 now. We have a lovely family life, lots of love, fun and happiness, though with plenty of challenges as well given two young children, little sleep, etc! Financially we are ok and just about to move to a four bedroom house. I keep thinking about having another child. however part of me wonders if it's almost being greedy and I should quit whilst I am ahead... I have 2 beautiful, healthy, happy, loving, strong children should I not just count myself lucky and stop there. Also we've had 7 pregnancies and only two children, not sure I can put myself through the endless agony of repetitive miscarriages again. And Dh is against the idea but not unconvincable. His concerns are because Ds 2 has been a very high needs baby and the transition from 1 to 2 children was hard. So when I consider all this, why do I still feel broody and think about a third child? Will it just pass?

I actually anticipate feeling like you in a few years time OP. DD2 is 3 weeks old and was desperately wanted but I had completely forgotten how bloody hard newborns are (I wouldn't say I really enjoyed things with DD1 until 8 months in). I wrote a list when I was pregnant of reasons not to have a third and am currently adding to it! My logical head knows 2 is right for us in terms of space, finances and what we can offer emotionally/practically as parents. But I also know I probably will have a pang or two when DD2 is a little older and as 40 approaches, knowing that time to try again is limited.

OTOH, I'm already looking forward to getting my evenings back, getting more time to myself when they start school, reduced childcare costs etc. Neither of my 2 have been particularly chilled out babies. 2 is much easier in a practical sense in terms of cars, holiday bookings etc. And you must consider the possibility of twins (happened to a friend of mine). I think the advice of a previous poster to revisit your feelings in 6-12 months is a good one - at the end of the day though, only you can know what is most important to you.

Goodness we are all so different. I wanted four. The broody ness disappeared the moment the fourth was born.

Have worked with all four.