Having to cancel a romantic weekend as he is not free AGAIN

[Tulip1011]

Can you please let me know if I'm being an irrational cow. It's my new(ish) boyfriends birthday today and after ages of agonising about what to get I decided a nice weekend away. He's in France (he's French) with family for 2 weeks over Xmas and new year..so I hinted that we celebrate the weekend after he is back. I research and book lovely hotel and restaurant. Today I double check he is still free but apparently he has to come back to France for a family dinner as his cousin is back from Miami. So now I have to cancel...am pissed off, how many family dinners does a person need? He suggested we postpone and I said yes sure but I'm sort of thinking the moment might have passed by the time we find a weekend we are both free, plus the place I picked books up quickly. Am I being unreasonable to be in a stress about this? I kind of feel like not bothering and just doing a low key dinner instead

I did check when I booked that it would be OK to cancel - Smart move!

Enjoy choosing a new surprise :)

Agree with pp, you shouldn't have booked anything without checking he was definitely free and asking him to hold the weekend.

Well I'm going to go against the grain. I don't think there is anything wrong with booking a surprise weekend away after 6 months together. I did so after a couple of months with the man who is now my dh (and who proposed on the weekend away!)

I was explicit that it was for a weekend away though so he didn't double book. I think that was your only mistake tbh

I also don't think your boyfriend is unobtainable to want to see his cousin

Why don't you tell him you'd like to take him away for a weekend away for a birthday treat at a time that works for him? Keep location a surprise but makes sure he won't make other plans. And you'll be able to tell from his reaction if he finds this ott or not...

Unobtainable = unreasonable