He gave my present away!

[bumblebeerat]

I know I'm probably being unreasonable but I was given a Christmas present by my new work colleagues of a little bottle of wine gift set (you know the ones with the glass and chocolates.) I was quite suprised as I have only been there a week. I don't drink at all but they don't know that and it's the thought that counts. So I brought it home showed dp and left it in the kitchen.

So today comes we go to his mum's and low and behold he's only wrapped it up and given it to his brothers gf. I haven't mentioned anything and probably won't because it's not really worth the hassle but aibu or is that pretty out of order even if I wouldn't drink it?

YANBU - I don't know how you didn't say in an appropriately loud voice "Oh, I was given the exact same set by my lovely new colleagues, can't wait to try the chocs, we can compare notes!" and watch your DP squirm.

He should have asked if it was OK and definitely should offer to replace it with something you would appreciate.

He should have asked. You might have had plans to take it somewhere or give it to someone yourself.

You need to mention something though.

YANBU - I don't know how you didn't say in an appropriately loud voice "Oh, I was given the exact same set by my lovely new colleagues, can't wait to try the chocs, we can compare notes!" and watch your DP squirm.

Or just take the non-passive aggressive approach of asking him why he gave away your things without asking.

It was rude and disrespectful of him. Of course you should mention it.

Bloody hell, you should tell your dh not to do things like that. I would be really cross if my dh gave my stuff away without asking. How disgusting and rude.

It's more concerning you won't stand up for yourself than him being a pillock as you probably already know he is one.

YABU if you don't call him out on it.

Yanbu as it wasn't his to give
However, his action doesn't change the fact that your lovely new colleagues were thoughtful enough to give it to you in the first place - I'd focus on that but would mention that he should've checked first

He should have asked.

Is this the first time he has given something of yours away? If it is, you need to nip this in the bud now, or in a few years you will be in the shoes of the poster whose 'D'H secretly threw away all her treasured childhood books that she was keeping to share with her own children.