to shove all the festivities up his backside?

[bettyberry]

Long story short. Not seen OH for a while due to work, finances and living in different towns. Countless hospital appointments for DC mean its very difficult for me to travel. I had planned half term to visit but at the time OH was working nightshifts and with DC having SEN it would've been both pointless and hell to deal with. since half term I have hardly had a conversation with the OH just texts and msgs on FB due to being on different sleep patterns.

He has Not long confirmed he isn't coming for xmas via a text. Reasons he gave were financial and also to look after someone. Its probs worth noting we didn't spend last xmas together either and DC was upset then too.

I am furious, hurt and upset but have yet to unleash any of my anger on OH until I am calmer and have drank enough wine and have consoled DC and tucked into bed.

This isn't the first time I have been let down and all previous visits he has cut short for various reasons not to mention no physical contact just a call and texts since half term and my birthday was even forgotten although with financial issues I was, at that time, not expecting a visit. A phone call would've been the best thing.

So, would I be unreasonable to shove the festive things I have planned up his arse and tell him to fuck off for good? should I make a 70s cheese and pineapple hedgehog just for the pain value and keep the quality street for myself?

I'm still reeling here and need cheering up before I do the inevitable and tell him to get lost. I just can't believe I'd fallen for such an inconsiderate tosser who would let me and DC down at the very last minute.

[TeaFathers]

sounds like he's married with a family elsewhere. you may be his side piece.
i agree that you should do yourself a favour and dump him. you're being used, at the very least.