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A thread about BASTARD EX's

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Freeandsinglewater · 24/12/2015 10:29

Please vent here about EX's, share your hate!

Got a txt from Ex about 11:30 yesterday saying this:

Next week I won't be able to see DS (3) Would it be possible to be with him tomorrow from 9.30 till 1pm? Thanks.

Really?
Fucking really??????

Angry

Why is 4 hours a week too much for him?
Also as I dropped off DS, he does not want to see DS on xmas day!

OP posts:
JoffreyBaratheon · 25/12/2015 01:05

My ex did the Alpha course so is of course, a committed christian.

He is nuts so not allowed to have any direct contact with the kids.

He has spent a huge amount on them every christmas since he last saw them over 10 years ago... A mighty £0. No card for a few years. The last one they got was scrawled on a black and white postcard from his church and he didn't even put a stamp on it so the postie tried to charge me to receive it.

Ah, the god of love.

Baconyum · 25/12/2015 03:39

Mine

Cheated and gaslighted me.
Didn't pay maintenance until he absolutely had to (military waited till almost a disciplinary matter)
Reported me to ss for child abuse. (Totally spurious they investigated as of course they had to, but no problems)
Forgets dd exists, used to be only until school holidays now it's until her birthday (yesterday)/xmas, barely contacts her despite several options being available.
Spent less than £50 on her for both birthday and xmas yet I know he will spend hundreds each on the children with ow/2nd wife...and dd will know too thanks to fb. And if not fb he'd have no shame in listing what her half siblings got.
Hasn't paid maintenance for months and while csa are saying I should get a payment 'soon' I'm not holding my breath and certainly not counting it in my budget.
Tells everyone I'm 'nuts' and an 'unfit mother' because I have a mh dx.
Told dd on one visit that I was 'nuts' and an 'unfit mother' and that he was going to keep her. This scared her and it took me months to convince her he wasn't going to take her away.

I'd kneecap him too!

He called once re dd birthday but because we were busy at the time and couldn't talk (he'd not checked or said when he was calling) he hung up on her and never replied to her text. Dd has decided not to speak to him as it just upsets her. I honestly don't blame her.

I stupidly for years I thought for her benefit made excuses for him. In hindsight I should have let him disappear out of dd's life when she was little which again in hindsight he would have done. The maintenance wasn't worth the heartache!

usernamesandgingerbreads · 25/12/2015 04:10

Mine has not seen the kids in around six years. Has not paid for them in approximately ten years, has not sent any form of gift or money since 2011.
He cannot afford to apparently despite his instagram post about a very expensive bottle of alcohol twat he doesn't see/ring/email them but he misses them dreadfully and it breaks his heart apparently...

usernamesandgingerbreads · 25/12/2015 04:13

Oh and the dc memory of him are sulking or punching holes through doors if he didnt get his own way.

amarmai · 25/12/2015 16:30

all of this will be paid back to them , as your dcc will grow up and realise what these inadequate men are really worth.

hollieberrie · 25/12/2015 21:07

My ex fiance began an affair while my Mum was dying in hospital. Then decided to leave me for OW a few days after the funeral. Kicked me out of the house, turned all our mutual friends against me. I had to leave my job (we all worked together). They basically ruined my life and have now apparently just got engaged. I hope they die. (Wish i wasnt so bitter and broken Sad).

Jetcatisback · 25/12/2015 22:24

My ex has been plastering happy family pics all over Facebook of his 'lovely family Christmas' - except his two daughters were missing as he is only allowed supervised contact now due to his actions earlier in the year. I didn't want any contact but the LA persuaded me as DD2 was really struggling. Except at the last supervised contact he didn't bother to turn up, leaving DD's completely devastated. I've now stopped the supervised contact and suggested he contacts a solicitor if he wants access - which he won't. He hasn't even been to court yet (taking indecent images of children) so who knows what is yet to come.
So, while I fully expected DD's to be unhappy today that they're not seeing him, we've actually had a ball and it's been the best Christmas ever. Up yours you abusive twat Xmas Grin

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