Isn't this bloody cheeky?

[madmomma]

Ds age 5 has a best buddy at school who is quite out of control. Not malicious but extremely lively with a huge attraction to danger. He's come round quite a few times and has been extremely hard work. His mum works and has no family nearby, his dad is unwilling to look after him as he's such hard work, plus he sees looking after him as his wife's job . I'm friendly with the mun

I've just sent this "we're really busy til Jan with one thing and another, but let's meet for softplay before they go back to school" I'll report back if/when she responds

Good choice :)

Thanks yank

I bet you don't hear from her

You make it sounds nicer by saying. It's funny as my ds keeps talking about wanting to go over to play with your ds too. Then leave it to see if the msg will sink in. I can't imagine asking anyone to have my ds over for a play and my children have been taught that it is rude inviting yourself to others if they want to play with someone we ll invite them over to ours. She is cheeky and if she doesn't see that, you shouldn't feel bad for bluntly saying it's your turn!!!

Yes, I think she is being cheeky and you should just casually say you're really busy during the hols. On the other hand she could be at the end of her tether if her H won't look after him (does she have other kids?) but getting her H to look after his DS should be the focus of her efforts, if that's the case. I'd be worried if you suggest the softplay thing she'll find a way to make it you taking the kids (plus her DS) or once she's there she'll find an excuse to leave him with you. So you could word it carefully or just leave it. I don't think there should be any expectation to have play dates over Christmas no matter how pally the boys are.

I Had a similar situation when my son was younger . Just be aware if you arrange a play date that she doesn't dump child on you last minute by saying something has come up and he will be so disappointed if he doesn't get to go so could you still take him anyway ? Speaking from experience on this one .

That is exactly the sort of thing she does spindle.

I've had a mum " friend " like that and then you end up paying for their child's entry and snacks / drinks etc , it is being used , no other way to describe it . if the children are friends at schools and it's a strong friendship it will stay that way whether they see each other out of school or not . I knew I was being seen as a soft touch and being used and it's not a nice feeling . Be busy and let them me school friends .

Ooh fighting talk but I like it! Thanks.

Take care she doesn't try to dump him if you meet up for soft play. Make sure that you have an unbreakable appointment that morning which it would be absolutely impossible to take an extra child to.

Thanks for the tip dip

Any response OP?

She sounds bloody cheeky and is treating you like a doormat!

He doesn't want to look after tHe child he helped to create. PerhaPS he should have thought twice about dipping his wick

Nope. No reply. What a surprise.

Well done though- love your reply! Has she ever had your child over?

She has, yes, but not as often or for as long. Plus my son knows that if he behaved like his mate anywhere, nevermind while visiting someone, he'd be in big trouble. I ask her every time what his behaviour has been like, precisely because if he doesn't behave at a friend's house he wouldn't be going again. She doesn't seem to care what his behaviour is like. She says she just lets him "do what he does"