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To let this friendship slide?

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Flamingoblue1 · 20/12/2015 15:58

Hello all. Need some help!
I have a friend and I'm wondering whether to let the friendship slide. We used to go out a lot and contact each other lots. She knows my core friendship group too although they're not close friends with her if that makes sense but they like her.
Last Xmas her attitude appeared to alter she decided she no longer like going out that's fair enough. She spend some nights out with a gob on and went home early. A few weeks later I got engaged and on Facebook so congratulated etc but when I met her the following week she showed no interest in the ring etc and told me how crap her life was. A few months after this she moved with her bf about 3 hour away. We tried to meet about 3 times in this time and she either gave me the wrong time or was evasive. She came on my hen do but buggered off with someone we barely know and went back to her house to do drugs! Should I bother? I think I've answered my own question!

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redexpat · 20/12/2015 16:02

Drugs? Steer well clear.

Flamingoblue1 · 20/12/2015 16:08

To be fair red the drugs is not a regular thing with her at all so that did shock me but she's an adult. I think sometimes she's so desperate to be liked she just goes along with things which is stupid I know !

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Faye12345 · 20/12/2015 16:36

Is her jealously a factor?

LaLyra · 20/12/2015 16:51

If she's changed and drugs are part of her life I'd steer well clear as that could suggest there is more than that one time going on.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 20/12/2015 17:43

If it were my friend and she was telling me her life was crap. I'd be asking her what was wrong and if there was anything I could do to help. She's probably feeling a bit melancholy, op. You know you're getting engaged and her life is crap.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 20/12/2015 17:44

Sorry you've got engaged and her life is crap and you're wanting her to celebrate.

Goingtobeawesome · 20/12/2015 17:45

Well she's not desperate to be liked by you.

hibbleddible · 20/12/2015 17:48

It sounds like she is letting the friendship slide anyway.

Maybe stop contacting her and see what happens?

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 20/12/2015 17:50

How interested have you been regarding her life being crap?

If you haven't shown much interest in that, it's hardly surprising that she hasn't shown interest in your new ring...

redexpat · 20/12/2015 18:03

Perhaps its more a case of your lives are moving in different directions now.

Flamingoblue1 · 20/12/2015 18:34

I have supported her several times including answering late night calls etc regarding her life being crap in her opinion. All I ever get when I have problems is 'oh well'. I actually will let it slide as I do feel I'm putting more in than I'm getting out. Sometimes peoples lives go in separate directions true but I've never seen that as a barrier to friendship.

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CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 20/12/2015 19:03

In that case I don't think it's unreasonable to let it slide.

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