Dd2 is 4 weeks old. When she was born I sent an email to mine and dh' s siblings announcing the birth (the usual: name, weight, time etc). We chose Petunia would be her MIDDLE name.The response I got from sil was "I'm very disappointed with the Petunia", that was it, no congratulations or anything. I responded with something along the lines of "wtaf? What are you on about?" She said she couldn't believe we'd called her that as she'd told us ages ago their first daughter would be called Lily. Have changed the names for anonymity but basically they are both flowers but that is as much as they have in common. Neither me, dh or my parents remember her sharing her chosen future name, nor do any of us see any similarity between the names, nor do they have any children yet. She went on to block me on Facebook so I messaged my db asking what the hell was going on and he (has no backbone) told me to give it a few days as sil is very upset about it so I should give her time to calm down. Really?! I genuinely couldn't see an issue with the names and was absolutely livid about her response to our good news (had two miscarriages last year) but I'm the one that should give her some time then get in touch?! Any way, I didn't hear anything for a week so I did message her (I don't want to fall out with family), I explained it was her middle name so wouldn't even really be used, and that I just didn't understand the problem and basically we just agreed to disagree and to forgive and forget. The thing is I can't shake the feeling that she was the only one any way in the wrong and now I see her as a very self centred, selfish person. Am I bu to let this taint my view of her and still be pissed off?