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washing up - who?

42 replies

Clarella · 20/12/2015 15:18

Just that really!

How does it work in your house?

Dh often seems to act as if I'm being highly unreasonable about him sometimes helping with the DISHWASHER!

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Artandco · 20/12/2015 17:03

Joint here. Generally we all cook together and all clear up together. That includes youngest at 4 years. Everyone does what they are able ( youngest chops easy stuff/ lays the table/ puts cutlery in dishwasher etc)

It would drive me mad being the one expected to do everything alone.

RaisingSteam · 20/12/2015 17:30

DH mostly as he likes loading the dishwasher PROPERLY. We are about 50-50 with housework, in fact he does a bit more as he likes tidying, but I do household budgeting/planning/organising DC.

If one of you is out of the house part time (bear in mind commuting) I think it is fair that the part time person has a bit more proportion of housework/childcare but by no means all of it. Honestly we are in 2015 not 1955.

kaitlinktm · 20/12/2015 17:37

I think the hypocrisy is that he will dictate a system for managing it but doesn't contribute

WHAT?!?!

So he's management is he and you're the lackey? Good grief! Tell him it's no good talking a good story - he needs to put his money where his mouth is and pull his finger out - walk the walk not just talk the talk ....

< wanders off drowning in clichés - angrily>

TheBunnyOfDoom · 20/12/2015 17:38

Whoever doesn't cook, washes up in this house.

Varya · 20/12/2015 17:40

Its always me, whoever cooks!

seaweedhead · 20/12/2015 17:40

Housework is one thing that we rarely argue about. He works ft, I work pt so I end up doing more simply because I'm at home more. But if one of us sees something that needs doing we just get on and do it

Krampus · 20/12/2015 17:47

After an evening meal we all clear up together, including the children. This is how I was brought up and how it was when I went to friends houses.

Teenager does random requests to unload. Every evening I unload the dishwasher and my husband stacks any left over bits from dinner or cups.

TheOddity · 20/12/2015 17:56

Bloody always me. But now I'm 36 weeks pregnant I am putting my foot down. It is giving me real backache as I'm so far from the sink and my hands are a painful mess (gloves make them just as bad). I'm a SAHM but don't think that means I should have to do my least favourite job 100% of the time. Can't get a dishwasher as we have a teeny kitchen.

gamerchick · 20/12/2015 18:01

The person who cooks does the dishes here. Mainly because I wash up as I go along so there's little to do at the end of it. He uses a lot of things so they're piled high at the end.

Finish what you started I say.

TheOddity · 20/12/2015 18:05

Yes I agree with finish what you started, as some people really do race through pots and make the kitchen a disaster zone (p with sopping tea towels on the table (DH) while other wash up as they go along and even empty dish racks as they go (me). DH does cook when he can though so I guess I'm whining a bit.

Crazypetlady · 20/12/2015 18:13

I will wash/wipe as I go but dp is in charge of cleaning the kitchen and washing up.

Artandco · 20/12/2015 18:14

We do it all together like mentioned, so by the time we sit down to eat everything is already tidy except for what we are using at the table

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 20/12/2015 19:44

DH does the washing up. I cook and will dry/ tidy round the kitchen. He would never dry and put things away, would happily leave stuff on the draining board and doesn't see crumbs or messy sides. So I refuse to do the washing up as he just wouldn't get on with the rest of it.

LittleMiss77 · 20/12/2015 19:50

I load the dishwasher because when DP does it, for some reason all he manages to fit in there are 2 pans, 1 plate, 1 glass, 7 non-dishwasher safe items and 2 bowls.

and it really, really boils my piss

cariadlet · 20/12/2015 19:51

No dishwasher here so one of us cooks and the other washes up. I couldn't cope with doing everything together - I like to get on with jobs my way and don't like anybody getting under my feet (probably too much of a control freak).

TimeToMuskUp · 20/12/2015 20:22

DH does the dishes far more than I do. He also loads and empties the dishwasher more than I do, too. I probably cook more often and do more laundry, but he's good at the mundane stuff, though he does need a reminder for other jobs about the house or he just walks past oblivious.

Ughnotagain · 20/12/2015 20:25

For us it's generally whoever didn't cook... Unless one of us makes something that uses a lot of dishes and wasn't really necessary. Like if one of us bakes a cake or something.

To be fair tho we're both a bit shit at keeping on top of it. 2016 will be the year of the dishwasher

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