SIL and marmite

[anastasialow]

SIL has form for giving me a bad rep to MIL and other people, by passing on speculation about me and DH and information about me that is not true. MIL and I have a language barrier and her age (she is 90 and does not seem to cotton on to what SIL is trying to do) to contend with. This has been something that SIL has done since DH and I started dating and I am constantly hearing through the grapevine things that she has said about me. For eg she told MIL/wider family/mutual friends that I'd had plastic surgery (I hadn't!) and also that DH had told me to lose weight or he would divorce me (he didn't!)

Anyway, the latest drama is as follows: when we visited BIL and SIL in the country that they live over the summer, I asked them a few days before we went if they wanted anything from the UK. SIL said she wanted a jar of marmite. Fine. Only problem is, I forgot, and by the time it was a few hours til we went to the airport I couldn't get one, so I took them a huge bottle of champagne and chocolates and apologised profusely, offering to send them one as soon as I was back. SIL said no need, no need, didn't matter. It was over and not a big deal - as far as I thought.

Next thing I know - 4 weeks later MIL calls me and she is in tears. She makes me promise not to tell SIL. SIL apparently hasn't been able to let go of the hurt she feels that I did not remember the jar of marmite and she feels it reflects badly on my character and for not keeping my word and that I don't care about her or think about other people. This took up four phone calls between myself and MIL, with her dithering over whether I should call SIL and make an attempt to apologise to her again for not bringing the marmite (FFS!)

We will be spending Christmas Day with all of them.

WIBU to do a naked photoshoot of myself lying in a bath of marmite and give it to SIL as a Christmas present? WIBU to have a tonne of marmite delivered to her house for Christmas? WIBU to ask any of you for any better ideas of what I could do with marmite to really hammer the point home to SIL?

Get her one of those jars of marmite covered in glitter like in the glittery shit thread.

Hey! Vegemite is awesome ;)

You lie! It is as grim as the OP's SIL!

Marmite cannot be replaced!

Wear this.

All day.

Every time you see her.

Petty all round. The woman says rather silly things doesn't she. Just rise above it and laugh.

Vegemite is like marmite blended with margarine.

Get nice large jar marmite.
Remove lid.
Use superglue around glass jar top.
Screw jar kid back on (for eternity)

Wrap.
Give.
Enjoy.

I am LOVING these ideas!

Britishcornershop.co.uk deliver marmite globally so maybe introduce her to them?

Assure your 90yr old mil that it's all fine and this type of thing over a jar of marmite is the thing that family's laugh and bond over. She's probably worrying she will be gone soon and you'll all fall out/ never speak again.

Only ever buy your sil marmite themed gifts from now on. Even randomly send them:)

Personalise it with "SILLY". Tell her it stands for "sister in law, love ya!'

Do you knit?

Get her a jar of Vegemite.

Just read someone else said the same. Morrisons sell Vegemite. Or get her own brand Aldi.

Or tell her that you're sorry you lost the marmite, but you were using the jar to smuggle drugs and had to ditch it when you saw sniffer dogs.

Thank you thank you thank you for all your suggestions.

For lack of access to marmite costumes and shops which sell marmite memorabilia, I'm going to go for "soz" emblazoned on a big jar of marmite as her main gift, and then little ones scattered all over christmas... the dining table, the loo, on top of the TV, in the bedroom they're staying in etc.

And of course now that's the main gift for her all wrapped up (did you see what I did there )

Every birthday, Christmas, Easter whatfuckingever that's what she gets.

No deviation. EVER!

I hope she gets an allergy to yeast

Hahaha this thread made me laugh so much! I hope she enjoys her marmite fest!

I'm quite liking the imitation Aldimite idea.

Or Bovril. Buy her Bovril.

This thread is great. Love the suggestions!

Your SIL and elderly MIL need to get a grip. If a forgotten jar of marmite is all they have to concern themselves with they're v lucky! Or they are both one sandwich short of a picnic.

Either way, good luck in dealing with them. And yes, you need to ALWAYS just buy SIL jars of marmite forever.

I'm loving having marmite everywhere at Christmas :)

And yes you absolutely must give her marmite for every single birthday and Christmas from now on.

I love marmite. I love champagne more. Where does she live that you cannot get marmite for the equivalent of a bottle of champagne? Even when I lived in a sub-saharan African country, you could buy massively overpriced Marmite.

I saw some Marmite pyjamas on Tesco website - get some of those and wear them on Christmas day

Love your bath idea in marmite. How about a large canvas of you posing naked with just a jar of marmite to cover your modesty

Love marmite. Anyone tried this?

Photos op of the marmite xmas decorations or your sil for us mntters!!

Buy a Tiffany's box or some other designer brand, then put a jar of marmite in there. Wrap it in loads of fancy tissue paper and ribbon so it looks like a box of awesomeness.

Or, get a giant tub, put a spoon in it and serve it to her as a starter:

www.amazon.co.uk/Marmite-Spread-600g-Tub/dp/B005D50WD2

You could try to get a bespoke bauble in the shape of a marmite jar. Hang it on the tree when you get there, take and upload a photo for us all to see.