Long story short: exH convicted of an unforgivable crime. I knew nothing about his secret life. I left him immediately & my family helped pick up the pieces of my & my two DCs lives. We had to move & they supported all this. At first my I laws were shocked & supportive, but as time went on & we moved away they have become less & less involved in mine & my DCs lives. I always encouraged visits, contact etc., but they never seemed bothered. I've had a hard time, but thanks to my parents' & family's loving support, both emotional & financial, I've rebuilt our lives, my dc are settled & happy & I've got a new career. Haven't seen ex inlaws in over a year, they've never offered any help for the devastation their son caused me. But they want to see the dc (not me, I hasten to add - request was specifically to see 'the children') over Christmas. I want to tell them to Foff - they have done f all to support me and my dc. They have no idea how hard my life is at times & have never bothered to ask me how I am. Their loyalty is with their criminal son. And my oldest doesn't want to see them either. Do I tell them outright I don't want anything to do with them? Or just keep ignoring them? Advice please!