To think my brother ought to ask if he can bring his canine clingon to stay with us over Christmas?

[EasyToEatTiger]

I live in a multi-dog, multi-poultry household which at the best of times can be fairly chaotic. I know this dog from previous experience, comes into the house and pees and poos as a welcoming gesture. I also don't know how the dog behaves around poultry. They have been before and there was a dead chicken when they left. I don't know if this was because of the dog, but we have not found dead chickens in the garden as a result of our lot, but it is entirely possible.
My experience of other people saying it's ok to bring our dogs into their homes when there are lots of other dogs present is not good, and although we do look after friends animals from time to time, I know there will be a lot more pee and poo to clear up in the house, and frankly it can become a bit tiresome.

I am not a happy bunny and my brother does not think like most people, so having a sensible conversation is not possible.

It's good to know the correct spelling of Klingon whether real or imaginary . I am in no doubt that my brother does not want to be here. He just doesn't know where else to go. He is co-dependent which makes life more complicated and really I don't know how to cope with it.

My heart says its xmas, it sounds like your brother is struggling so cut him some slack and just nag him about the dog.

well, he should be cleaning up his own dog's shit for starters. to leave the host to do that is very, very ignorant.
i'd make that point crystal clear to him.

who is he co-dependent with? the dog?

what breed is the dog, as a matter of interest?

is DB getting treatment for his depression?

Happy to help!

Really, though, just tell him! You're not being at all unreasonable not wanting an incontinent chicken-killer of a dog mooching about your gaff unsupervised and un-cleared-up-after so if he can make that not happen then he's welcome and if not then not!

Sorry - that was clear as mud ... YANBU!

It sounds as if your DB's dog is anxious coming to a multi dog home, and therefore scent marks as soon as it arrives with pee and poo. However, DB should do cleaning up immediately and dispose of waste appropriately. Dog should be taken out on a lead not just let out, if only to be certain it goes nowhere near chickens.

I think if DB cannot be apart from his dog and will not clean up and supervise, at you home, he shouldn't come. I think the dog would be fine in kennels, and DB is the one unable to cope without it.

Tread softly makes good suggestions.