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IZBU about the commercialisation of Cancer?

111 replies

IamtheZombie · 15/12/2015 22:49

The most recent offender is the Macmillan Christmas Star campaign.

If any of Zombie's family or friends do anything even remotely resembling this she will come back to haunt them.

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LunchpackOfNotreDame · 17/12/2015 20:56

GP's make me angry.
Over 65? Everything is tested for
18-65? Fuck off and man up
Under 18? Parents have munchausens and you little one are a fussy eater

Fuck off

lessthanBeau · 17/12/2015 21:15

ludoole my dearest so sorry to hear your news, we spoke earlier on in the year in another thread when my DB was dying. My thoughts are with you and your family. X

With regards to the thread , Macmillan have government funding so we dont donate to them, where as Marie curie nurses totally rely on donations, they were there with us when it really counted, and we are forever in their debt we wear our daffs with pride everyday and we have a permanent collection box on our shop counter in my dbs memory. I also have a monthly DD for cruk in his name I feel these donations are better spent than Macmillan. My mum also has an incurable cancer and mm are nowhere to be seen!

CheshireChat · 17/12/2015 21:17

Vladthedisorganised I find your comment terrifying as I had a unexplainable cough for over a month and then it took another 3 or so weeks to get an xray done. Luckily mine was an allergy but... Sorry for everyone's loses.

minmooch · 18/12/2015 07:04

Just to add a positive side to the gp debate. My gp was fantastic. My son had only had two weeks of very mild symptoms, I had taken him to sera different gp I the Thursday night. On Tuesday morning I rang my GP who called me back immediately, listened to my concerns, put all his minor symptoms together and told me to take him to A&E. She rang the hospital herself and had a team of Drs waiting for us in arrival. When we walked into A&E and said my son's name we were taken through immediately. He was repeatedly checked out and within3 hours had had a cat scan and tumour located. So I took him to GP onThursday, and he was diagnosed(took3 more weeks to actually diagnose what type of tumour) tuesday he was admitted, Friday he had 11 hour surgery.

My gp's belief in me and in my son's symptoms got us prompt and fantastic ser

minmooch · 18/12/2015 07:06

Oops ........ service. Without that I believe my son would have died over the weekend (confirmed by consultant). It didn't save him ultimately but it gave him some time.

Just wanted to sing the praises of my GP and the team at the hospitals he was in.

bruffin · 18/12/2015 09:14

My childminder dgd was diagnosed with leukhemia within a week of seeing gp. Her only symptom was an infected cut. She had been a bit tired and ratty but had just started school so was put down to that. She is 23 now and has a lovely littly boy of her own.

vladthedisorganised · 18/12/2015 10:01

I'm so sorry, Cheshire - it wasn't my intention to scare anyone!

My mum had a cough for months that was really crippling: she was very quickly out of breath and was usually up several times in the night unable to breathe properly. Since she had a history of mild asthma, it was assumed by pretty much everyone involved that the coughing must be down to that: one asthma clinic report started off "we know it can't be lung cancer as VladSenior is not a smoker..." She didn't think it was asthma as it seemed so much worse than her usual wheeze.

It took six months for her to be referred for an X-ray, which detected a stage 4 tumour. I don't blame anyone involved (and tbh the 'you ought to sue the NHS' discussions from neighbours were incredibly depressing), but it's made our family a lot more pushy about demanding these things are checked. (In one case it meant discovering one relative was expecting twins!)

vladthedisorganised · 18/12/2015 10:05

TheCarpenter - you are so right about the tea and cake. I can't explain it either, other than the way it added normality at a point where it was so desperately needed - but it was bloody amazing.

MummaV · 18/12/2015 10:31

ZINBU. I personally can't be dealing with any of it.

My Grandad is currently riddled with cancer after 10 years in remission. 10 years ago he collapsed, was taken to hospital and was diagnosed with a form of stomach cancer, the tumour was so large it was cutting off the blood supply to one leg, caused serious DVT and almost lost him his leg. In the past year he was diagnosed with prostate cancer, was then scanned and told he had a tumour on one of his kidneys and it would need to be removed, the day before surgery he was scanned again and told he didn't have a tumour in his kidney at all, it was a blood clot (strange given his lifelong course of warfarin after the dvt). Since then he has had 4 different areas of skin cancer removed and grafted. Every time he goes to the doctors/hospital he gets told he has another tumour or cancerous area.
He is now undergoing on going palliative care as its spreading and nothing can stop that. It will kill him, maybe not this month or in the next 12 months but eventually it will. Not one of these charities has provided any assistance or even a friendly ear. If they'd taken his symptoms seriously when he first went back complaining 2 years ago we wouldn't be in this situation now. He is facing it with bravery and living life to its fullest (he spent his 75th birthday in a hot air balloon and intends to skydive in the new year depending on how ill he is) but it's horrible when you catch his eye, staring out of the window, he is clearly terrified and no amount of charity tat will make that any better now.

Zombie It's lovely to see you around, your approach to all the shit you've faced is inspiring.

Everyone else diagnosed or affected by the bastarding cancer

OldFarticus · 20/12/2015 07:36

for Zombie. I hope she enjoys Christmas and her plans sound wonderful.

Thank you to the PP who reminded me about Marie Curie. I am off to make a Christmas donation to them, inspired by this thread.

CheshireChat · 21/12/2015 15:42

Vladthedisorganised I just thought it sounded familiar, really sorry about your mum, in my case it was an allergy. It turns out I'm a human mouse detector. at the twins shock!

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