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To not dress my child as an elf?!

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Wizadora1 · 12/12/2015 23:06

Be gentle it's my first album.
So today I took my ds (8 months) along to a baby sensory Christmas party. I'm not normally one for chain things but I thought it's Christmas, I will make an effort.
I bought a new outfit for him, dungarees and a long sleeve top. I thought it was practical to play in, I was clearly wrong.
Every other child was dressed as a bloody elf or santa! I've checked the confirmation email, fancy dress was not specified.
Is there some unwritten festive rule that says elf attire is required, therefore making me a terrible mother or are there other apparent scrooges out there?
I love Christmas and everything that goes with it but it genuinely didn't occur to me that I should dress him up!

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Salmotrutta · 12/12/2015 23:09

YANBU.

What is a "baby sensory" Christmas Party

We didn't have "baby sensory" stuff when mine were babies.

We just talked to them and let them grab handfuls of things.

They turned out okay.

WorraLiberty · 12/12/2015 23:10

Yes you're a terrible mother (obviously)

Do let us know when your album comes out.

Birdsgottafly · 12/12/2015 23:11

It's pretty standard, where I am to dress up in 'fancy dress' to go to Christmas parties.

If your not keen, then that's fine, also.

BackforGood · 12/12/2015 23:11

No YANBU. I too would like to know what a baby sensory party is

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 12/12/2015 23:12

No don't worry about it your make up for the expense when they start preschool right through to juniors as every other frigging week it's some kind of dress up day.

DS lived in his snowman onies thing from October to February because it was only thing I could find suitable whilst carrying him in a sling other than that I didn't bother

ExitPursuedByABear · 12/12/2015 23:13

He won't remember.

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Wizadora1 · 12/12/2015 23:13

I meant it's my first aibu!

Baby sensory is one of these new fangled chain type things, they use lights and bubbles to 'stimulate baby' (the leaders words not mine)
He wasn't remotely interested in what she was doing, far too busy attempting to crawl and eat things.
You didn't miss out, I doubt he's missing anything not going regularly. He's quite happy playing at home and fighting me for the dogs toys.

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SavoyCabbage · 12/12/2015 23:14

I don't know what baby sensory is but the Christmas my do was a baby she got a Santa babygro and I put it on her loads. Get the benefit as my granny would gave said!

Having said that I don't think I would have noticed what the other babies were wearing.

WorraLiberty · 12/12/2015 23:14

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Wizadora1 · 12/12/2015 23:16

I tried so hard to not do a typo!
I blame the wine, first week in his own bed so I'm making the most of my new found freedom.

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PaintedTshirt · 12/12/2015 23:16

There is lots of dressing up for Baby Sensory classes.

It's fun, kids can wear dungarees any time but you only have a very limited window to dress your child as an elf

Krampus · 12/12/2015 23:17

To Not Dress my Child as an Elf would be a great first album title. I want it.

Some do, some don't, it is all ok.

Janeymoo50 · 12/12/2015 23:21

Sweetheart.......just you enjoy your first Christmas, especially now he's in his bed. You did good going.

BertrandRussell · 12/12/2015 23:23

What's the point of having a baby if you don't dress it up as things? Get in there while you can- they'll be self determining and objecting before you know it!

Essexgirlupnorth · 12/12/2015 23:25

When I did baby sensor dressing up your baby was very much encouraged. Though still bitter than I didn't win a prize for the cowgirl dress up as make a waistcoat and hat for my daughter and the person that won bought a woody for toy story outfit. Took my daughter to a toddler class Christmas party and she refused to wear her Christmas jumper. Easier when they are babies!

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Wizadora1 · 12/12/2015 23:28

Many points to me having a baby that don't involve dressing him up...
I don't feel too bad though, I am now considering releasing an album rather than returning to work. It's a shame the voice let's me down.

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DustyCropHopper · 12/12/2015 23:30

Of course you were not being unreasonable to not dress your little one up, but neither were the other parents who did. I didn't dress mine as elves or such but they did have a Christmas romper they wore to all Christmas events!

BrandNewAndImproved · 12/12/2015 23:30

I have always put a bit of tinsel in my dds hair band for things like this but not when they were babies.

SirChenjin · 12/12/2015 23:32

I'm a fellow loather of all things dress up, so I'm with you OP. It's nothing but a money making scam by the retailers.

CwtchMeQuick · 12/12/2015 23:34

YANBU to not dress your child as an elf.
Mine was a christmas pudding for his baby sensory party a few years ago

maizieD · 12/12/2015 23:35

I don't understand why some of you didn't just settle for having a doll, rather than a baby. You can dress a doll any way you like and they never grow up to be awkward toddlers.

Kudos to the OP for not wasting money on an elf costume (albeit unconsciously )

Salmotrutta · 12/12/2015 23:39

I had The Fear that if I dressed my kids up in stuff as babies (who had no say in the matter) then they would be traumatised.

I stand by that.

Imagine the photos... "And here's our Derek dressed as a Gnu"

Bobotybobjob · 12/12/2015 23:41

I never dressed up my babies and never would have, I hate it so I'm with you

Euripidesralph · 13/12/2015 00:45

I'm in complete agreement..... everyone was obsessed with ds1 being dressed up in a santa costume when he was a baby and I flat out refused it as personally I think it looks tacky and horrible

I was less than impressed when nursery happily presented me with a pic of him in a santa suit as a Christmas card that he had painted as well.... In fairness they didn't know my views on the bloody santa suit... but I had gone the metaphorical ten rounds with the mil at the time to refuse a bloody santa suit picture so it was bloody galling

Still obviously I made my feelings clear as noone has dared suggest such a thing with ds2 bwahaha

So you are definitely not being u

PoorFannyRobin · 13/12/2015 02:28

Mine would have been so adorable as elves! Imagine -- little elf shoes. Sigh. Although if we had been invited to a baby sensory party (can hardly type that phrase without snorting in derision), mine wouldn't have been dressed in a costume unless that aspect of the party had been well spelled out in the invitation. I'm always the last to catch on to things.

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