To be pissed off that my partner told me he's going to an ex's party tomorrow?

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Basically he told me that the ex's kid has a party tomorrow....the child's dad (a friend of his) has invited him but the child's mother is an ex of my partner (I don't think it was serious). But while I was heavily pregnant I found he'd been messaging her....nothing bad that I know to but I was livid as she's an ex. He told me no more contact at all. So I'm furious that he would even think this is ok.
He doesn't seem to take my feelings into account. I'm beyond hurt and upset that he would consider going to this party (not even a mention that me or my kids were able to go, though I wouldn't but you get where I'm coming from). AIBU?? X

Having read all of your posts it seems unfair for him to expect you not to speak to men. There's got to be trust and you cannot tell your partner what they're allowed to do or who they're allowed to speak to (unless there's been some clear problem)
I also find it unusual that a baby's party started in the evening

well, this sounds pretty miserable to me

double standards it is

Sounds harmonious

OP have a read of some of the relationships threads, it sounds like you are in a relationship with a Twunt. You can do much better than this. (For starters - being single is much better than this). Good luck.

yanbu. This is just really weird. I don't even get invited to parties that my Ex holds for the children at his house. And he wouldn't get over my threshold either. And we are on speaking terms! We do text, but purely about the kids. No choice when you share kids really.

I think it's very odd that your DP and his mate dated the same woman, and that hasn't affected their friendship. Isn't that a bit of a No No? It's odd that his mate is going to the party (as he's her Ex). It's doubly odd that he would invite your DP.

And...a party for a baby/toddler would never start at 6.30pm Surely bed time is 7/7.30pm?!

Something ringing alarm bells with me.