He has over the last 4 years had 3 jobs, the first 1 he was actually being bullied in, it was a horrible time I had just had a baby and he was being forced out of his job.
He left anyway went somewhere else and the same thing happened again, although to me it seems that he was asked to do something by a foreman, didn't like having to do it so kicked up a fuss, making the foreman give him the even worse jobs, this he said amounted again to bullying, from this job he was eventually let go. In his next work place same thing repeated itself, to cut a long story short there were a few who were mate sin this place, took a dislike to dp (who to be fair to him is a really hard worker, always going in at 7 coming home bout half 5 - 6) so he was let go because he wouldnt sign a new contract lowering his wages to 2 thirds of what they originally were, long long story I wont go into but again he was eventually finished up in July. His dad was diagnosed with cancer and began chemo so dp couldn't concentrate fully at work. Its been a horrible time for us the past few years anyway.
During this time I've been setting up a business along with looking after ds who is now 3 and only at nursery 2 full days a week, I've been able to do more work as he has been here to entertain ds but it was only ever a temporary measure that we agreed on.
In august I was given the horrible news that my grandmother who has raised me as her own was given an end of life notice due to spreading cancer that we thought was under control, to say it was a shock to us is an understatement. Her final wish was to be kept at home so I and my uncle did that to our best, I would spend days there caring for her until she finally passed away in October. Ive not been able to grieve in the time since as Im constantly worrying about money. DH has now been signed off sick since July, his reasons for not looking for another job are because he is depressed I can see why he is due to the bullying from work and he is getting help to gain his confidence back, and the other is because he needs to drive his dad to chemo. With all due respect the hospital is 10 minutes from their house, I have offered numerous and have actually even taken hims a few times. so I don't see this as a reason to not be looking for work.
I found out this morning due to someone calling the house that he was offered 2 weeks temp agency work starting from today that he had turned down.I am fuming. I've had to come upstairs as I cant even face looking at him. For the pas 6 months I've tried so hard to hold it altogether, running round after him and ds along with clearing out my nans belongings which was hard in itself, then id have to come home and clean the house, if I made a fuss he'd clean the kitchen once and think that was enough... I feel like i've lost all respect for him, sorry just ranting as i have no one in rl to talk to about this.