To think if you're off work with a stomach bug you can't be seen in a restaurant

[Daisysbear]

I was up during the night with cramps and diorrea. Rang work to say I had a stomach bug and wouldn't be in.
I was supposed to be meeting a friend for a meal tonight and texted to cancel and apologise. She texted back saying 'see how you feel later. You might be ok.'

Aibu to think that even in the unlikely event that I felt up to it, it would be very stupid to be seen out enjoying a meal when you've been off work all day with a dodgy stomach? I hate letting my friend down but I just don't feel I could do that.

If I spotted you out socialising after sick day, I'd bring it up at work the next day - not in a formal way but to let you know that part of being given paid time off sick is that you are responsible to look after yourself properly in the first place and give yourself time to recover. If you went out (and was spotted) and then had another bout of D+V in the night and had to call in sick the next day again it would look really bad on your part.

YANBU to cancel on the friend, she's unreasonable to expect you to go out when you'll probably still be feeling a bit rough.

A lady where I work had a horrendous sick record. She would go home early because she was feeling sick, and then go out hat night and was seen and she would plaster it all over Facebook. She no longer works there, because of this.

Going out when you are off sick depends on what you are off with. If you have a broken wrist and your job involves using your hands then I think it is fine to go out. If you are off with a cold, stomach bug shouldn't go out.

YANBU. If you're too ill to work, you're too ill to play IMO.

YANBU

YANBU. Why can't some people take no for an answer?

No you shouldn't go out for a meal in the evening if you've been off work that day. Yes it is the unwritten rule for those of us who do not approve of skivers.

YANBU - and seriously with diarrhoea and cramping what exactly is the likelihood you will feel up to it by dinner time.

Never mind the point about being seen, it is about giving it to others.

Thanks to someone probably being a bit careless and 'feeling okay' after being sick, my partner and son currently have a bug, I have had to cancel a very important work contract worth a lot of money and we will no longer be able to go away this weekend as planned for my son's birthday because we won't be 48hrs clear on Sunday. Thereby using £s on tickets, hotel etc.

I could curse the person who did this!

YANBU. Aside from the work thing going to a restaurant when you've had D&V is just grim.

losing, not using

D&V can pass by the evening so you may feel better, but maybe meeting somewhere else would be better, perhaps at either of your homes for a takeaway.

I have this issue today with my DD - she has had a fever most of the week, particularly at night, without the fever she'd be sent in to school but the rules are 24 hours of feeling well. She has a club meeting tonight, last before Christmas and she's been fine all day, no temp since the early hours of this morning. She's probably well enough if she doesn't get another spike in temperature between now and the club meeting. She also has a party tomorrow.

I do remember having bad tonsillitis and not being able to work, but a friend was having a bad time so I agreed to meet and sip non alcoholic drinks to support her. Because collegeagues knew I was attacked for it, it's not worth it even if it isn't a fair comparison, my job was actually a 24 hour shift at that time.

YNBU and sorry to disappoint your friend but there's no way you'll be fit enough to be sitting in a restaurant later on, and even by some miracle you are feeling fine you casn hardly rock up to a restaurant can you after being off work ill. Imagine by coincidence your manager is also at the restaurant. They're going to think you've taken the day off to get ready and pamper yourself, which you could understand I suppose. I'd think that, you'd think that.
Just concentrate on getting better . And rearrange for another time.

I wouldn't go out for a meal if I'd been off work with sickness. However, I'm not sure whether to go to watch DD's carol service this afternoon having been off work (teaching assistant) due to a very heavy cold. I feel pretty grotty, but there won't be another carol service till next year - I can't just rearrange for another day...

Absolutely no way should you go out for dinner when you've been off sick with d and v. that's really grim!

Also I think you're right-if I had covered for a colleague who was off for that reason and then saw them in a restaurant I would completely think they were skiving. When you're off ill it's essential trips out only-to the Drs or chemist!

If people get sick after going to the restaurant you could ruin their business.

In your situation, YANBU at all, but in general, it depends on why you're off sick.

I do a very physical job and was signed off last year with a pulled muscle in my back. The doctor signed me off but encouraged me to go out everyday and get gentle exercise, which included wandering around time and doing gentle daily activities.

Similarly with things like stress/depression, it's good for you to get out and about and that can include socialising, going for meals and shopping.

But anything contagious (like D&V) or a cold or whatever should mean you stay home unless you have to go out to collect children from school or to get medication.

My friend nearly lost his business due to someone going to his restaurant after having D&V. 25 customers fell ill the next day, the initial conclusions was as he has a fish restaurant this was the cause. He was forced to close for 11 days whilst environmental health investigated. As he is very popular and is always full booked they were able to track every customer and this combined with testing showed it was norovirus and he was exonerated. For this reason alone YWBU to go