To think you don't cancel plans with someone just because a better offer comes along!

[RainbowSparkles]

I have just received a text from a friend, cancelling our plans for Saturday night because her other friend wanted her to go out somewhere with her.
She said you don't mind do you, as we haven't booked anything yet anyway.
We were going to the pub for drinks so we didn't need to book, I'm so annoyed I haven't replied yet.

But if you aregood friends & want to see someone, how does a "better offer" come along?

Well a good friend of mine cancelled on me recently for a better offer.

We were going out for a pizza and a bottle of wine.

She unexpectedly got the chance to attend the Mobo awards for free when her boss gave her a spare ticket.

She was desperate to go but couldn't afford the tickets.

I was more than happy for her to cancel and feel I would have been the shit friend if I gave her grief for it.

Text her back: "Oh, sorry, I was going to answer you, but got involved in something more interesting instead and forgot. [passive-aggressive smiley]"

YANBU. A good and usually very thoughtful friend of mine recently cancelled a trip to see me a few days before, saying she was coming down with the flu. A couple of days later she was tagged into some photos on Facebook bowling and enjoying a couple of beers. I almost 'liked' it to make a (PA) point. I haven't mentioned it to her and I still love her but I am hurt.

OK, I get that.

An event that is only happening one night.

But some posters seem to be talking about cancelling a bog standard night out with one friend for a bog standard night out with another.

As the saying goes:
'Don't make some your priority if they only make you an option'

very annoying. 5 of us from work are going out tomorrow, tickets booked back in July. today one of them announces she isn't going. ffs she has had months to plan, says she hasn't got an outfit (fancy dress) has an assignment to finish, hasn't told her dh etc

If something special comes up that couldn't be done just any other time - so, you win tickets to something, get invited on an all-expenses paid trip etc - then OK. But otherwise, no. It's rude to ditch one person for another and not just book a different night to meet the other person.

Op has said that this 'friend' has done this several times before. Op that would be the end of this friendship, she does not value you.

Max - do that group of friends really not care or do they not say anything and quietly seeth?
I've come to the conclusion that she only asks to / agrees to meet up when she actually wants something like a babysitter etc
I haven't responded and she hasn't contacted me since so we'll see what happens, however I am always busy from now on