'She'll sleep better once she starts solids!'

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DD is 5 months old, ebf. Wakes for a feed 3 times a night which I understand to be totally normal. She's crap at napping though. Maybe I'm being a bit sensitive, but comments like 'weaning will help her sleep, maybe the breast isn't enough anymore!' and 'she'll sleep better once she is weaned!' are really grating on me. These people obviously mean well but AIBU to be annoyed by this?

It was 4 years ago: really not the biggest thing I need to remember, just simply asking. Maybe if some of you calmed down and not so neurotic, you may get some note sleep

It was 4 years ago: really not the biggest thing I need to remember, just simply asking. Maybe if some of you calmed down and not so neurotic, you may get some note sleep

Eh, I'm getting enough sleep to remember basic stuff from 4 years ago and refrain from calling other people names.

I'm confused as to which posts you think were aggressive Peppa?

I hate it when people say this too so yanbu imo. DD2 turned 6months a couple of weeks ago and we started weaning not long after, it's not really made much difference to her sleep. Some nights she sleeps well, other nights not so much. And she doesn't always wake for a feed either - it's pot luck really. I do try not to feed to sleep for every wake up unless she's hungry, but they tend to sleep through in their own time (and it's glorious when they do).

Ahahaha

With DD1 I have been told she "will sleep better"

when she is on solids
when she starts crawling
when she starts walking
when she gets all her teeth through
when she starts nursery school

Some of these may have made a slight difference (and getting all her teeth definitely did) but she is now 3.2 and still wakes up a fair bit. In reality it has been an incremental improvement over the years rather than any one miraculous moment. Some kids are just crap sleepers.

DD2 is nearly 9 months, eats solids for Britain and still wakes once or twice a night, not because she is hungry but because she has endless colds and is teething. I'm hoping she will sleep better when we reach spring...

It did for dd1 but she was nearly 1, it was a decent amount of solids. An ice cube of puree isn't going to make any difference I don't think!

DD2 ate a decent dinner tonight and slept for an hour rather than her usual 45 minutes - does that count as an improvement?!

YABU because most people are trying to make you feel better in a "chin up, this won't last forever" sort of way,

It hasn't been 12 weeks for thirty years or more.

It had a 100% success rate in my small sample of two. Anecdotal I know. DD1 slept 7-5 at 6 months, 2 months after starting food (weaned early due to reflux). Dd2 slept 7-5 at 8 months, 2 months after starting food. Both BF and waking 3 times a night for feeds previously. Horrendous nappers as well.

Could be coincidence of course.

It is annoying when people give you nuggets of 'fact' about babies and children as if they are all the same. A midwife recently told me that babies don't need night feeds once they get to 10lb. She clearly did everything right as her 4 slept through from 10 weeks. My youngest is 5 but this still really annoyed me. I hope she never said that to new mums as that could be really upsetting if you're already dealing with sleep deprivation.

Scone that's shocking what about babies that are born nearly 10lb? Or bigger?!

I wonder if that 10 pounds thing is a bit of an old wives tale. I remember my mum was sure my dd would sleep better once she hit 10 pounds and I don't know where she got that from! (To my recollection, nothing changed.)

YANBU

But, beginning weaning at 5 months helped my previously ebf non sleeper (and I mean waking every hour and a half through the night) to sleep. Some babies are hungry before exactly 6 months.

I was at the point of giving up BF entirely just to get a break and some kip. People are just trying to be helpful. If you don't want advice, lie and tell everyone baby is doing great and don't go into any more detail.

None of mine were effected by it one iota.
Dd1 slept 12 hours through from 8 weeks. Always (wbf)
Dd2 never slept until mercy was given my by the gp in the form of medised.
Ds slept through when he didn't have an ear infection or on antibiotics (about 1 day a fortnight)

It's a load of rubbish, babies wake for more reasons just that they're hungry. I'm 27 and still can't sleep through the night. And I ate a Belgian bun before bed.

Yanbu, most annoying thing about being a parent is the unwanted advice/comments!

thesconeofstone that midwifes night feed "advice" would of been no use to me my ds was 11lb 0.5oz when he was born lol

Made no difference to my DD. Her sleep has only recently improved markedly down to normally 1 night waking. She's 4 years old and at school. We were getting a good 4 wakings a night until this summer. People gave up advising me on her sleep

From the "anecdata" on this thread alone, I think you could just smile and say, "yes, some people do find that!" And just do what you're doing.

Trouble is, sometimes you just want a moan about how tired you are, and people will insist on trying to solve your problem, when really you just want a bit of sympathy.

Have some and

Bollocks, bollocks, bollocks. My DS started eating at 8mo ish (spoon refuser so we did BLW) but didn't start sleeping through the night consistently until well after 14mo. He eats like a small pig now and sleep still goes loopy if he's teething or ill.

SanityClause you are so right! I know people are trying to be helpful but actually all I want is a moan and not to hear what worked for them :-)

My DD started solids at 7 months, she was never ready at 6 months. She eats everything now, and at 11 months still wakes up up to 4 times a night.

some days she naps, other days she never naps.

Regardless of how other people's babies have reacted to solids, you have a right to be annoyed, nothing worse than constant advice about your baby, I still get it now and it grates on me. The only experience they have is with their own, and every child is different.

At the end of the day they are just unpredictable little people that will do what they fancy whatever your best efforts are, all you can do is guide them and give them what they need :)

I recall seeing a chart linked somewhere (can't find it now) that basically showed that babies will sleep through in their own time.

Weaning has no correlation, solids have no correlation, etc, etc.

You might be able to train babies into a different routine, but generally they find their own routine for sleeping. There's no "should sleep through from X age".

DD slept through from 10 weeks.

DS woke up at least once per night until just before his 2nd birthday.

They were weaned at roughly the same age, had the same routine, same food, etc. None of it mattered.

My DS slept through for a whole week just before he turned 6 months (and before he was on solids).

Then he started eating food and started waking up again . Finally reliably slept through the night somewhere between 18m - 2y

Then advice has been weaning at 6 months for 12 yes Twelve years. I was on breakfast TV breastfeeding ds 5 month pg with dd3 talking about the changes of recommendation from 4 months to 6. At the time there had been information about benefits of weaning at 6 months out for some years as both ds age 14 and dd age 16 were not weaned until then.

The general ability of Doctor surgery and health visitors to give out this advice and comply with it has sadly been shockingly poor. Hence we see people with 4 -7 year old son who were given outdated information.