To think that people who were spoilt as children carry on acting spoilt into adulthood and end up having charmed lives?

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Every single adult that I know who was seemingly spoilt as a child and has carried on acting like a spoilt brat into adulthood has a completely charmed life with everything going their way. It makes me feel that sometimes it isn't worth being a decent, kind, considerate adult because the spoilt type of person has the world revolving round them!

One person in particular is a mum that I have come across via my DCs preschool and school. She is in her late forties and was spoilt as a child and is still spoilt now as her mum does everything for her. She is also not a particularly nice person and does not think twice of tantruming when things do not go her way, and is not scared of speaking her mind (ie not saying particularly pleasant things) or making demands. If she falls out with anyone she sees it as the other person's fault and that they were being horrid to her even though the fall out is usually because of her and her acid tongue when the other person wouldn't give her her own way.

As a result of how she behaves, everyone tiptoes around her. People moan about her behind her back but she is invited to everything as no one dares not invite her. They will go out of their way to please her and do favours for her, such as collect her child from school as she is in the middle of watching a film at home! People really do fawn over her and it is quite sickening and baffling to watch.

At a kids' party recently she sat near me and was telling a whole group of us about how she didn't like her job and how she moaned and moaned to her manager and refused to do part of her job, and so they promoted her to shut her up!

AIBU to think that this type of person goes far in life?

I know two exceptionally spoiled adults. They both have the traits people have been listing here:
can't maintain relationships, everyone always takes against them and are nasty, they never do anything wrong, they're highly critical of anyone else, any bad thing that happens is not their fault, cannot take criticism of themselves, go into mad tantrums if they don't get their own way, etc.

One had a kid recently. In fairness the kid is decently enough looked after but the mum puts her own wants above everything else, and uses the kid as another weapon in her arsenal of tricks to get her own way.

Its sad and very draining.

However I know a fair few decent people who were spoiled as kids but had it knocked out of them when the real world happened.

Some adults are proof that you can be too nice to your children imo.

Some adults are walking proof that you can be too nice to your children imo.

Oops sorry for double post!

My SIL was very spoilt - not only according to my DH buy their father also confessed he 'let her get away with murder'. The upshot isn't necessarily that she leads a charmed life but she has zero accountability. Everything bad in her life gs someone else's fault. She has never pad her way, using men or her mother as walking cash machines. On the odd occasion where she has deigned tk get a job it is almost over within a few months because she claims that someone was rude to her (I. E. asked her to do some work).

Ironically- my parents who Ard well off gave never given me anything, I have always saved since I had my first part time job, worked like a dog to ian my way through uni, and have had nice hols and a good house. (Currently skint due tk dh retraining and childcare fees!) But SIL always talks about how lucky I am.

I am afraid she is passing her own views on to her kids who are sadly seeing that although she doesn't live a perfect life, she never has to foot the bill or live with the consequences.

I've known a couple of people who live charmed lives. My friend does and I like her so much but at times it's hard not feeling a bit jaded!

I've only known one really spoilt person I can think of, which is more sad than anything. She was a friend of mine when we were both at school, although she went to private school (of course!) Her parents had already lost a child and she had everything material bought for her, beautiful home and bedroom and own pony, exotic holidays and so on. Yet I don't think they loved her properly: she had very low self esteem as everything they got for her seemed to come with conditions attached with expectations for her behaviour and conduct.

Ironically, when she got married her husband was much the same and would reprimand her publically whilst buying her anything she wanted. It was all just very sad.

My STBXH was/is a spoilt brat. On the outside until I left him he led a charmed life. In reality he's an alcoholic who can't handle that real life/work/relationships are things that don't always go his way and he has no idea how to function in a world that doesn't revolve around how fantastic he is(nt!)

I agree OP, and some of them seem to develop into expert manipulators.

Tinkly, my bad, I misread and thought of only children when OP wrote about "single adult" - maybe I have a chip on my shoulder, eh?

I say I was spoilt because I am/was unconditionally loved by my parents. Not given every material thing I wanted in my childhood, but shown and told I was loved in many other ways, for which I am very grateful and why I feel "spoiled". It may just be normal for some, feels pretty special for me.

You don't sound spoilt at all Green. I think all children should be loved and cherished.

I was spoiled as a child (in some people's opinions) I had the beautiful house, horses, clothes, beautiful bedroom etc My children have had the same and wanted for nothing. This doesn't mean to say we are all not kind, considerate and compassionate adults though.

I get you OP. I know someone who was a spoiled madam growing up. She is a young adult now and it very much seems to be continuing. Everything is about her and she seems to have fuck all consideration for anyone else. The person enabling this is still doing it so she will continue to act like a nob.