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I gave a mate an elbow and she's saying I really hurt her, warning very teenage

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Namechangedec15 · 07/12/2015 12:24

The other night I was out with a friend, she's very high maintenance. She'd been sniping all night, when I said things like "I think it closes at 8" or "I think we are about half way round" she'd correct me when when it became obvious what the answer is in an annoying way "you were wrong... Bla bla". She started having digs at my diet as I didn't want chips or a waffel when we were out, I'd already had my dinner and wasn't hungry. Then she did a big " omg that's my ex there quite loudly ", I said much quieter back " which one? What colour coat". She said nothing and then 2 mins later started having a go at me saying "I'm not telling you anything anymore, you are really loud and he could of heard" despite me saying it much quieter and less obvious than her. I gave her an elbow and said "ah calm down". I thought it was pretty light, but she carried on saying it was really hard and really hurts. I apologized several times and said I didn't mean to hurt and was just a friendly tap. I then said how she had been annoying me, she went into a " its just banter, that's who I am, if I have to think about everything I say then we cant really be friends".

I'd spent the weekend helping her move home with a shoulder that was dislocated several weeks ago, so maybe i have a higher threshold for pain, but it really was a gentle tap. I get elbowed more than that just on a rush hour train.

She sent a message last night just saying "my shoulder still hurts". I ignored it. She sent another message just now saying "I'm going to have to see me homeopath about my shoulder'. She's very much into her woo.

She's a total hypochondriac, I've seen her one night saying i feel a bit rough due to lack of sleep and she's sent a text a few days later saying " you were ill the other night and passed flu to me". She often makes herself ill IMO with her negative thoughts, you just have to cough in the same room as her then she announces "I'm going to get ill".

Yes its very pathetic, but what would you do? Apart from obviously not meet up again with her.

OP posts:
RubberDicky · 07/12/2015 13:17

ShockBlush find not grind

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 07/12/2015 13:19

Grinding friends is a bit of a step up from elbowing themGrin

ShortandSweeter · 07/12/2015 13:20

you assaulted her. I would apologise.

Maudofallhopefulness · 07/12/2015 13:23

She did apologise Short.

Just cool the friendship OP, too much hard work.

MrsDeVere · 07/12/2015 13:24

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shutupandshop · 07/12/2015 13:26

Ditch

Viviennemary · 07/12/2015 13:39

You both sound well a bit difficult. If you had agreed to go out for something to eat and then didn't eat that was annoying. But she was annoying and you should just avoid her for a while. You annoy each other. No doubt about that. Whether there is enough good things in the friendship to continue it in the longer term is up to you. But certainly have a break for a while.

Potatoface2 · 07/12/2015 13:40

yas both weird!

atreya · 07/12/2015 13:41

I do think you sound every bit as bad as each other. Grin I suspect you'll be friends again before the week is out, so I would do nothing.

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Namechangedec15 · 07/12/2015 13:57

WTF will a homeopath do for an injured shoulder?

The same as they do for anything else, give some sugar pills for a tenner, pick a random food not to eat (aubergine last time was recommended to ditch for stress) and charge 45 quid for the consultation.

OP posts:
Thisusernamewasavailable · 07/12/2015 14:08

Run.

nauticant · 07/12/2015 14:15

If homeopathy works on her then it's likely that even the gentlest tap will be like a sledgehammer blow to her body. Thank your lucky stars the damage wasn't worse.

Original poster
Namechangedec15 · 07/12/2015 15:35

If homeopathy works on her then it's likely that even the gentlest tap will be like a sledgehammer blow to her body.

Yes! You know the typeGrinWink

OP posts:
partialderivative · 07/12/2015 17:30

So, if you are not teenagers, how old are you both?

partialderivative · 07/12/2015 17:40

So, if you are not teenagers, how old are you both?

BreakfastLunchPasta · 07/12/2015 18:03

Nauticant Grin

She sounds like an insufferable pain in the arse, OP. I think I'd apologise yet-a-fucking-gain, offer to pay for her homeopathy treatment Hmm, and then sever all contact for ever before she drives you to murder.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 07/12/2015 18:09

You do sound a bit odd, and over-involved. Why would you help someone move if you had a recently dislocated shoulder and were in pain? I would be horrified if a friend of mine tried to do that, and I'd think she was being a bit silly to offer. If you're not well, it's not sensible to pretend to be ok.

I also think it is fairly clear that if someone says their ex is there, they probably don't want you to start a conversation about it. Nor do they want you to hit them - in fun or not.

QOD · 07/12/2015 18:12

I absolutely swear this is a zombie thread ....
Deffo heard it before

But move on anyway. She's a wassock

JeanneDeMontbaston · 07/12/2015 18:23

It's not a zombie thread. It was started recently.

If you think it's a troll, report?

ShortandSweeter · 07/12/2015 18:24

I know....she asked but what would you do? so I told her I would apologise.

manamanah · 07/12/2015 19:08

She sounds like a fruit loop, and a gullible one at that. But then you're not coming across a lot better.

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