Please bear with me, this is a bit long! We lent sil and bil £1600. It was to help them with moving etc. They had to move from their rented house into another one because the landlord wanted to sell. Now, that's most of our savings and our plan is to buy my first car in the new year. Giving them this money limits our options re putting down a deposit but they said they were desperate.
When initially agreed over the phone bil assured us they would pay back £950 at the end of November (when their deposit was returned) and then £300 per month thereafter until debt was settled. Before the money was transferred he outlined the agreement in a text and suddenly the details had changed. From the above agreement to: Between £550 and £950 when their deposit was returned, and then £200 per month until repaid. Hmmm, ok not quite what was agreed we thought but I guess we could do that. They seemed so grateful and when we initially said yes, bil had said things like, you don't know how helpful this is, I was losing my hair etc etc. Sil (long history of sibling rivalry with her db, my dh) has never acknowledged the loan, or said thanks. She's quite proud and imo up her own arse and completely lacking in humility. But she's family, so meh.
We had a text a few days ago saying they could only pay us back the minimum, £550 initially as landlord was withholding a chunk of their deposit. Well, that's what was agreed, we have no problem with that...until dh other db mentions that he's been to their new house and they've bought another tv "To go in the new house." Their current tv works fine and is around 50inches, new one is bigger.
So question is: aibu to be pissed off that they're paying us back the bare minimum?
If you're still here then thanks for reading so much! 