to find this a little odd

[northern78]

Dh has completed a gift tag on the biggest (cost several hundred pounds) presents for our dd and signed it from him and his parent (who passed away in March).
I kind of understand in a way as the gift would have relevance for his parent but I still feel and bit weird about this. Plus our other dc have not received a corresponding sized gift as this gift would not interest them. (It is an experience rather than a physical gift.
aibu to find it odd. Obviously I am not going to challenge him but just wondered what mumsnet jury reckon.

I agree with KeepOnMoving and I think you're already thinking that too, OP. I've lost both my parents too. I think it gives you a wider perspective. I completely take your point about dh being less understanding when you went through it, I've experienced similar, but it wasn't done out of callousness, just lack of understanding.

Yes I think I willl suggest that we get an extra gift for dd2. Dd3 really doesn't need anything and won't notice. Thank you for replies.
In fact randon his sibling was hardly sensitive my 1st christmas without my mum. Her mum did something embarrassing snd she said. "At least your mum can't embarrass you". Well actually I would have given anything for my mum to be there embarrassing me.

What an idiotic thing to say, northern . People really don't seem to understand what it's like unless they've been through it too, which I suppose is fair enough, but that's just so insensitive.

Thanks random It was so out of character and she wasn't drunk. It hurt so much though.

Worse than that she had already lost one parent so perhaps shoild have had some idea.

He could sign it from both of you but explain it was funded by the inheritance.

I think that is very odd indeed.

Firstly missing you off - either it's from his parents, or it's not. If you are a couple, then, to me, that's very strange to just put it's from one of you.

Secondly, to put the name of someone who has passed away on a label is very strange, and would make me quite uncomfortable.

Thirdly, the idea of getting a "big" gift (or experience) "from deceased grandparent" - for just one of your 3 dc, is, again, very strange.

I would (have) ensured they all had some money put aside "from" the grandparent if that's what he wants to do with the inheritence - even the little one who wouldn't know at the moment, but will soon grow, and I'd like
to hope hear about the grandparent that loved them all equally.

Grieving or not, I couldn't allow my dh to do that to my dc