I'm a long time lurker.
I have a friend I'll call her Amy.
We get on well and tell each other most things.
Met up with her yesterday and was shocked about what she told me.
She has a son who is 1. Her and the dad split up. I like him and am still friends/acuainted with him through another long time friend.
She is expecting again and the dad and her are not together.
She has a (very) new partner she is very early on in her pregnancy.
Now I know she has introduced her new man lets call him Alan, to her child fair enough.
I was a bit cats bum mouth when she told me he was sleeping over but what has shocked me is that the name she had chosen for her unborn child is Alan as a middles name. She said it would be in respect of him because he will be bringing the baby up as his own.
If it's a girl then the middle name will be the same as Alan's mum.
She then said her mum was upset because she would prefer the baby to gave either her name or my friends dads.
My friend said I know their not happy, they weren't happy when her first child was named after her now ex and his dad.
The child is no longer in contact with his dad yet carries his fist name, dads name and surname.
Sorry thus is long.
I just feel she is making a mistake.
To add perspective she can have a tendency to jump straight in as far as men go.
She was engaged in the summer to a different guy. He left her accusing her of cheating which even though she denied it Im not too sure.
I know it's not my business but surely it's not right to name a child after someone you've just met who is not the dad.
I really like her mum and dad so maybe I feel it's wrong on their behalf.
Aibu