Been married a long time, I will admit, but just lately I've felt very let down by my OH.
Currently at work I have been very unhappy, trying to do something proactive about this, so looking for a new job.
So, on Monday, after discussing this over the weekend with mutual friends and OH on the Saturday and Sunday, I was having a "telephone interview" with a new company. OH said nothing on Monday, ie good luck etc, so I had the interview. When I got home, he had clearly forgotten, now my money is joint money, it is vital it comes into the home, so I feel not only as I am totally stressed in my current role but also that it is a vital part of our income, he could take some interest. i told him how disappointed I was about his lack of interest. I felt it showed complete disregarded for the situation I am in and lack of thought.
He apologised, but I was/am upset, I told him I felt alone with my issues, that he is just happy that everything is ticking along not if I am happy etc, but nothing has had an adverse affect on the family etc.
Today, my sister is getting some very important medical results, he knows this, again knows how anxious I am about this. So, others (including cousins, friends, etc) have messaged saying hope things go well for her/us etc. Nothing from OH, my gut feeling is that he has again "forgotten", which I just find awful! He has known my sister for as long as he has known me, he knows how upset etc we will all find this.
I feel he is just not really taking an interest in my life, I have often told him stuff "he forgets", I have before said to him he comes across as only a "fair weather" partner, ie he is happy as long as nothing rocks his way of life.
I am inclined to not mention the results and see how long before he "remembers", but no doubt my attitude/body language will give my true feelings away!
AIBU to feel really hurt by his lack of interest/thought?